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On an amazon registry, you can link up things like museums and zoos for memberships, but you can put a few cheap things and some big ticket items on there, too. Our guests have LOVED our amazon registry (and returns are super easy!).
I think if you decide on a honeymon registry, it's nice to include a more traditional registry for guests that aren't fond of the honeymoon regsitry idea.
I would also encourage letting guests know a few of your favorite charities so that they have that option.
We decided to do a honeymoon registry plus a very small traditional one at BBB. The amazaon one sounds cool though.
You could not register at all.
Really. That's what we're doing. That way people can give you meaningful gifts that they put some thought into, or they can give you cash/gift cards, or they can not feel obligated to give anything at all, if times are tough. On our wedsite, we wrote, "The best gifts that we could hope for are your love, good wishes, and company. No others are necessary." I've already had friends tell me how much they like and appreciate this.
@mightywombat: On our wedsite, we wrote, "The best gifts that we could hope for are your love, good wishes, and company. No others are necessary."
That goes over very well!
Do you have anything you want to upgrade that you already have?
If you don't have high-quality knives (Shun, Wustof, etc.) I strongly suggest those.
Oh, that's so sweet!! Thank you!
I have to be honest. We did take a lot of flack (way more than I was expecting) for not registering. But it was the right decision for us.
I think all of these options are fine. We received furniture and electronics from our registry (though the people who bought us electronics were our friends and younger family; older family went for more traditional items). As long as you have a variety of options, I think you'll be fine; even if people aren't into a honeymoon registry, they might like to get you a new coffee table, and vice versa.
honneymoon registry is the practical way to go - you dont want uncessary experience and be spending time doing various activitiies for the rest of the year. =)
@ Sasha2011 (message) and @mightywombat: On our wedsite, we wrote, "The best gifts that we could hope for are your love, good wishes, and company. No others are necessary."
I wrote the same thing and more than a dozen guests came empty handed, literally. No card, no wine, no cookies, nada. People will take your comments literally!
You could do an Amazon registry. Get the "universal wishlist button" and you can pretty much put anything you can think of on the list. I've got a lot of Ikea furniture on mine, because that's what we really need. I'm sure you can also put memberships to national parks on it, and I bet your guests will think that's a really fun gift to give.
@mightywombat - love it, great idea! i am getting a TON of flack from one friend who actually said "you can put those presents in storage and im sure you can hire movers someday".
Perhaps simply say 'No presents please. Your presence is enough'. I personally would prefer to see that then to be asked to specifically get someone an adventure/experience gift.
There is even a way to have people send $ to a bank for a down payment on a house. Check it out.
I think it's OK to register for honeymoons. But, you should find a neighborhood travel agent who takes 100% of the checks and puts it towards your honeymoon and doesn't take a 20% like some of the places that advertise this service. Our travel agent was very happy to collect the checks, tell us how much, and we wrote the thank you for the specific gift. That way if there was a discrepancy the guest could call us back and say, "Hey, we gave $100.00 not $10.00".
I think any of the above sound fine. You can register for electronics and small furniture items at BB&B and Target. I've never been exposed to honeymoon or experience registries, but they sound really awesome!
My suggestion, being someone who dislikes giving cash (in any form, including gift certificates, including honeyfund) is that you give some people the option to purchase something tangible. So electronics and furniture fall into that category and are fine. Plus, if you choose a place with a decent return policy, you can also return any "little" things and exchange for a sofa or whatever you do need. I would do this in addition to honeyfund and the rest of it and you can make the "tangible gifts" registry small so that it's obvious that your emphasis is on experiences, cash or whatnot and those who don't have a problem with it will eschew the things and contribute to the cash funds.
I'm not the be-all-end-all of what's appropriate or not on a registry and I'm in the minority with my feelings on honeyfund etc. I don't want to start a debate about that--my point is that I also know I'm not the only person out there who is turned off by giving cash and cash-type gifts and I would bet that there are a few people on your guest list who are similar. So giving them the option to purchase a gift they can wrap and bring to the reception and all that gooeyness seems to me like the best thing to do.
We are in the exact same boat as you, caelanarcher. I am 36, my boyfriend 39. We have both lived alone in our own homes for years and have all that we need...and want that's tangible. We don't want to get just STUFF from people. The only thing we truly really would want help with is our furniture. We are having a local woodworker make us some truly special and amazing pieces to put in our home and he is willing to set up a 'registry account' for us for our guests to contribute to. We would be so thankful for money towards our new furniture! I am presently trying to get the wording correct in our invitation to ask people to contribute to that registry in lieu of 'traditional' wedding gifts. We just don't want to clutter our home with more stuff or even handmade/homemade gifts that people get us that we'll put in a box somewhere and won't use. :( We're extremely practical that way. We'd rather receive a gift we TRULY appreciate and will use, whether it's on a registry or not.
I'd prefer to either give something tangible or just a card. I'm not into the whole "pay for our honeymoon/house/etc." thing.
i think all of those are great options.
fi's cousin is getting married soon. she's wealthy, so she doesn't need people to buy her things, plus she's having a semi-destination wedding. she put a note on the top of her registry page on her website saying your presence is your gift. she has an two registries with a few upgrades (sheets, new knives, a few pots and pans) and at the bottom of the page has a note that says:
"romantic dinner for two in our hometown" basically saying they're busy and would love a night out at the restaurant of your choice.
there's no website to deposit money or anything, so guests would have to get a gift card or cash, but i thought it was a nice idea!
Thanks for all the input, ladies! To clarify, we're definitely going to have a "real" registry at Macy's, with the kitchen gadgets, bedding upgrades, etc. I LOVE the idea of having a date-night registry! I knew I could count on you gals to give me a ton of useful advice.
wow, love the idea of some of these. We did a mixture- furniture, honeymoon and than a smaller more tradiational one. we are using www.uponourstar.com and it was cool- we were able to put all kinds of things on it.
I need to go check out some of the others, maybe for a baby!!
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I've had my own place for a little over 3 years now, and I've been living with FI for almost two years. We have plates. We have bedding. We have towels and knives and silverware and a blender and a kitchenaid mixer. I feel awkward that we're supposed to be telling our friends and relatives "buy me this!", but I've already got people asking me where we're registered and what we've registered for. The problem is that we don't need a lot of things. Sure, we could use a bread knife and a mandoline slicer. Maybe some new sheets. But not really enough to fill up an entire registry. So I'm wondering which of these are more "acceptable". I understand that it's kind of subjective, and that a lot of people will choose to give us cash, but I also know that a lot of them will want to buy things for us.
-Furniture on registry. We could use a new coffee table and some floor lamps. Maybe a couple of bookshelves. Obviously, these would be our "big ticket" items; instead of a kitchenaid mixer, we could use a little lounge chair. I guess electronics would go in this category too. A digital camera? A bluray player? That feels too "gimme gimme" to me, though.
-Honeymoon registry. I know this is WAY controversial on here, but a cousin of mine did one two years ago, and it seemed to go over well. We're honeymooning in-country, so it would mostly be nice dinners, tickets to shows, maybe room upgrades.
-"Experience" registry. Rather than buying THINGS, we'd love it if people would buy us EXPERIENCES. A horseback tour of the local battlefields. Membership to a museum. Tickets to a concert or a musical. Pottery classes, adult non-credit courses at the community college, dinner in the city.