Post # 1
So FI and I have been leaving together for 3 years and we already have a house full of stuff. We arent comfortable asking for just cash or gift cards and we dont want to fill a registry with stuff we dont need. We are just having a small wedding of 30 people and these people coming to our wedding is a gift enough(seriously). We cant say on the invite “Please no gifts.” or can we? IMO, if we did a registry I would feel like we are asking for gifts and we dont feel we need anything. If we just dont mention anything about gifts are we opening ourselves up to a bunch of toasters and crockpots?? If I went to a wedding where they couple didnt state anything, I think I would be inclined to give money or a gift card. But I also dont want people thinking that by saying nothing means we want money only. I am so confused and I need to make a decision on this soon. Am I the only bride that feels this way? What should I do?
Post # 3
I think that it is a small enough wedding that word of mouth is good, and there will still be people who will bring something. If you mention nothing, that is the best way to handle it IMO.
We are doing the same thing, we really just want people to come and have a great time, so when people ask about the registry, we are just telling them that we just really want our family and friends around us and that is gift enough.
Post # 4
I guess that fact that all these people know us so well and know we already have crockpots and toasters, will help. I think we just wont mention anything and do what you said when people ask. Thanks for the help. I feel better now that I know I am not the only one that doesnt want gifts. My family and friends are the best gift.(awwwww…)
Post # 5
U can put something on your website if you have one. Like: Your presence will be the best wedding gift for us!
Post # 6
We had the same issue, but we had been together for 10 years. When anyone asked, we just let them know that them coming to our wedding would be gift enough. We also put the following on our website in the registry section:
We have decided not to do a registry because we didn’t think it would be appropriate, since we have been together for so long. The honor of your presence is the only gift that we ask. If you would like to write us a note, we will have a card box with cards for your best wishes available.
My name and his name.
We also didn’t include anything in regard to gifts in with the invitations.
Post # 7
I really don’t think you’ll end up with the mythical toasters and crockpots if you don’t set up a registry. Honestly, the off-registry gifts we received were some of the best! We got a beautiful handblown glass vase, a case of wine, an antique cake plate, and a cool canvas picnic blanket to name a few. People tend to come up with special and thoughtful gifts. I really wouldn’t worry about it considering the small size of your wedding.
Post # 8
We had a small (50 people invited total) wedding, and had the same dilemma. We chose not to say anything unless asked, and for people who asked, we said ‘no gifts’. We ended up with $500 cash, a $200 in gift cards, a handmade glass vase, a gorgeous serving plate and, I kid you not, a fondue set. Note that the fondue set came from extended family who weren’t invited. Our parents and grand-parents gave us larger chunks of money that we’re considering separate (we paid for the wedding ourselves).
A couple of close friends did things for the wedding, including one who made the cake, another brought the sound system, etc…
We were happy with the decision, so don’t worry about it. Even the fondue set makes us laugh…
Post # 9
Just leave it up to the guests to decide if they want to gift you anything or not. If they know you well enough they should know you could use money and gift cards over other items.
Post # 10
Thanks bee’s! I appreciate the input. I am just not going to say anything and I am sure it will work out. Like I said, everyone coming knows us so well so I am not too worried about horrid gifts.
Post # 11
On our wedsite, we made a section titled “Regarding Gifts.” In it, we wrote, “Your love, company, and good wishes are the best gifts we could hope for! No others are necessary.”