Post # 1
For several months now, my SO has been deadset on a particular bridal set. While I was excited that he was enthusiastic about picking something out himself, I was not crazy about it. Here it is:
He did really well picking intricate bands, which I love, but the inclusion of yellow gold is not my favorite, I loathe a marquis center setting, and to be totally honest, the size of the center stone felt a little small to me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m no princess and I would be fine with a daintier stone if it were a good quality. This stone was not a great quality though. To top it all off, I have a few moral qualms about purchasing diamonds and this set was pretty far out of our price range. SO would have to save up for probably a year and a half to buy this ring. We’re both students. And I just did not want to wait that long…we are marrying in three years and I want to have a long engagement for the sake of my sanity. I am a perfectionist and I need A LOT of time to make sure things are perfect.
So with all that in mind, I have been lusting after this set for a good two months:
The floral engraving on both bands is so perfect, and the center stone is a white sapphire. More bang for our buck, and conflict-free. It’s right in our price range to wear SO would be able to propose over Christmas, which is ideal for both of us. Fortunately, he LOVED this set and agreed that it was closer to my style. I think he is relieved that I don’t want him to break the bank, too. I really had to talk him into the white sapphire, because he’s very traditional, but he understood where I’m coming from. I’m so lucky to have such a great guy! Hopefully by the end of the summer, the set will be purchased and I’ll be an engaged Bee by the New Year!
Did any of you have to talk your fiance into a different engagement ring than what he had in mind? Do you think it’s better to have something you’re happy with, or better to let him do all the work by himself?
Post # 3
Congrats : ) I like the sapphire set. It’s simple without being plain – kind of what I like.
We’ve been looking at rings for a few weeks. I think I want moissanite; however, I have found some cheaper rings with real diamonds that I like as well. The problem is that they are silver. I’d like to stick with gold, but I’m really liking this one silver set at the moment ( especially the price ). My SO has no problem with moissanite, but he has a problem with silver.
Post # 4
I really like what you chose so much better! Very pretty. I also have a conflict-free ring ;). My FI was on board with my choice, but he chose the actual ring. I liked what he chose a lot more so that’w what we got.
Post # 5
@MsW-to-MrsM: The second set is definitely silver! I have always preferred silver to gold because I think it’s a nice connection to my family’s Native American heritage and in my experience, it holds up better than some of the higher-carat gold bands. I also do not have a great eye for precious metals and I honestly cannot tell the difference between silver and white gold. Neither can SO. He was concerned at first that the ring will look cheaper, but I think it’s beautiful and I don’t really care if the eagle eyes in our family point out that it’s not gold nor a diamond. It is perfect for us, and I am just too frugal to ask my SO to purchase gold, exchange the bling-bling for a tiny diamond I won’t be happy with, etc. If you love a set, go for it, as long as you both like it! 🙂
Post # 6
I let him take the lead and only provided input when asked because I really wanted it to reflect that it was from him… I knew I would be very happy with it even if I gave no input at all. However, he did end up asking for my input more and more throughout the (long) process and in our case we turned out to have really similar tastes to each other. I think it helped in my case that I had not really thought about what kind of ring I wanted beforehand (aside from wanting it to represent him and his choice), and I also don’t really care at all about what’s “in style” or “dated” at the moment, so I really just came into it with fresh eyes. In the end he actually designed the ring and it’s nothing like what’s popular at the moment, but to me it is simply perfection.
Post # 7
@joya_aspera: Aw, that’s fantastic! Congratulations on such a good experience! Can you share a photo of your ring? I am interested now in what he chose. 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks! I don’t like to post photos of it for privacy reasons b/c its a one-off (since he designed it) but it’s a round brilliant diamond in a yellow gold setting with some melee decorations.
Post # 9
I like what you chose a lot better too.
The last thing you want is to be one of those girls that hates her ring. You are wearing it forever, so if there is a chance you can have a say in it, tell him.
Post # 10
SO actually talked me into something different! Well, sort of. I always assumed I would have a diamond e-ring. I didn’t know anything else was really an option. But SO asked if it had to be diamond. He thought something with color would be more interesting and unique. So now we’re getting a purple sapphire and I’m very excited about it. Purple is my favorite color–I’m a little obsessed. So I think this ring will be more me than any diamond ring I could’ve gotten. It’s like he knows me really well or something!