Post # 1
My partner and I got engaged and it was so exciting, We got engaged in November Brought a House in December and moved in by Febuary and we are getting married this year in November. However I’m not very excited, I’m just worried that I will be to stressed to enjoy anything. I have had a few people getting married around me lately and they have all turned into such bridezillas and I have watched them not enjoy thier wedding day and regret it. All I want is to really focus and enjoy the moment I become a Mrs and get to marry my best friend. I have been Scared to have a big wedding and I want to elope and get married overseas or somewhere intresting however it is reallly important to my partner, who has a big and split up family, to have a big fariytale wedding where they all come. But here is the problem I am stuck doing the planning and not because he doesnt want to help, but more because I have the time to do it, I just dont want to have to worry about flowers and cakes and things on my wedding or be disappointed because colours don’t match. Does anyone esle feel the same?
Post # 3
I feel it really important to stop and just relax. We are getting married in November and yes, I know there is a lot to do, but you don’t have to do everything at once. The first thing I would secure is your city or ceremony site. Then your dress and order that.
After that, you can relax a little. If you are eloping then you aren’t inviting anyone so you don’t have to worry about invites, save the dates, etc.
I think there is also one thing every bride gets super excited about…honeymoon, shoes, veil, photos…all sorts of things. It’s ok to just focus on that, too.
And remember…there is not one thing you MUST do. Your only job is to enjoy yourself (you will never be engaged again!) and show up on your wedding day.
Post # 4
Start by finding a venue that will take care of a lot for you. My venue inclues the ceremony and receptions space, all food/drinks/appetizers, a wait staff, linens, glassware, dinnerware and they even have candles that they will put on the tables if you don’t do centerpieces. We also get a “day-of” coordinator that will pretty much be our assistant for the day. Stress free! 🙂
Post # 5
@misslillypad: I’m not 20 something anymore (just turned 31), but I can comepletely relate!! I would love to elope just the two of us but my sister sort of did that in a sneaky way so I can’t do that to my parents. SO and I have agreed on a VERY small wedding in Maui. I would be happy just having both sets of parents and no one else, but its important to him to have his brothers there. We each have two siblings that we will invite, and then just our parents. The idea of worrying for months about colours, flowers, cakes, guest list, seating, UGH….don’t think we could handle it. We are just going to have our nearest and dearest in a dream location and go all out for the dinner of a lifetime….no expenses spared. SO says he wants me to have a nice ring and pretty dress and then just wants me to be his wife, without all the fuss of a big wedding, and I could not be happier with that.
Do you think your FI would compromise on a smaller destination wedding maybe??
Post # 6
No He is set on a big wedding of over 100 people because his parents are seperated and so this may be one of the only times in his life that they will be together in one room. this is really really important to him and I can see why it matters so much.
(we have a policy in our relationship where when we want different things the person who cares the most or feels the strongest and has good reasons gets it their way because it means when ever one of us really cares about something we can do it) does always work but is a good starting point for discussions and He really wants this more than my laziness/fear of stress to plan a big wedding