We got in a fight!!!! Is this normal right before you get engaged

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

A fight is pretty normally from time to time what ever your status is. FI and I got in a pretty heated fight after getting engaged. Don’t sweat it.

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Fighting is normal in a relationship, period.

Unless you’re fighting all the time, you are two individual people – there are bound to be differences.

Now, learning how to fight fairly without damaging a relationship is a different story.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Future_Mrs_C25978:  No, it is normal. Whether you are about to get engaged, married, or not life happens. I assume you don’t fight all too often because your last fight was about 2 months ago? I would say that is normal.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Future_Mrs_C25978:  ((HUGS))  It’s ok!  These things happen in relationships from time to time.  Did the two of you make up yet?  Getting engaged is a huge step and, although it’s positive stress, it’s still stress nonetheless.  It is normal to be going through this!  The thing that matters is working through the fight and coming to an understanding with each other.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Proposals are really stressful so it’s normal for the couple to get into fights, just because there’s already a lot of anxious feelings on both parties. The bigger question is, how do you two fight? everyone disagrees. Everyone fights. The important thing is if you two can respect each other even when you’re angry.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Assuming it’s a reare occurance (and they are not physical) then this fight ins’t a huge deal. Yes, the mood might be soured so if for some reason he had intended to propose this weekend it might not happen. But that’s a good thing. If you had a mega fight there is probably a reason you fought, so you need to have a calm discussion and resolve the issue before you get engaged. There is no reason to start an engagement or marriage with a large fight looming in the background. You also shouldn’t avoid talking about issues and just pushing things under the rug out of fear of delaying the proposal. Healthy communication is the most important part of a relationship.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Future_Mrs_C25978:  Well, I don’t know what you were fighting about, but maybe it is best to drop it if it’s nothing serious and you feel it’s been resolved.

How you feel is probably how a lot of women feel, we continue to have emotional “aftershocks” from a fight with our loved one for awhile after it’s over.  I don’t think men do that as much as we do.  They’re linear thinkers, lol.  It’s over, it’s over for them.  For us – not so easy.  That’s how we’re wired.  Neither way is right or wrong, it’s just different.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Future_Mrs_C25978:   I’m glad to hear it was something minor.  Yep, I’d say some of the worst “fights” aren’t really fights but just two people who are exhausted, stressed and frustrated.  I was also glad to hear that even in an argument you both stay relatively calm and respectful with each other.  🙂  That’s a good sign!

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