Post # 1
I have cousins who came to meet my fiance over dinner last night. Before leaving they handed us a card telling us they wished us the best and sadly they won’t be able to fly in for our wedding in October. Inside the card there was a nice note and some cash. When should we send them a thank you note? Mom says to wait until the wedding, I say we do it ASAP so that we’re not writing a bunch of thank you notes after the wedding. Our wedding is 2.5 months away, so I’m not sure what would be best.
Post # 3
Yup…I agree with you! We haven’t received any gifts yet…but I totally plan on writing thank yous as soon as we start getting gifts. That way, you won’t be swimming in a sea of thank you cards once the wedding is over!
Post # 4
I’ve heard that within a month is appropriate for gifts received prior to the wedding….partially just as a way of letting them know you’ve received them though obviously you did in this case. I did that for the first few that arrived really early, but in the last couple weeks so close to the wedding I’ve let it slide (also b/c the TY’s that match our invitations only just arrived). B/c it’s so far in advance I would send them right away for your cousins.
BTW, a similar rule applies for your shower. I had a tea party that turned into a shower (everyone brought gifts anyway), and I sent them the week after.
Post # 5
Hmmm… I think I would do it now. According to ourmarriage.com, thank you’s should be sent immediately after recieving the gift.
Post # 6
Just do it now so you don’t have to remember. I had a running list of who gave me what, and as soon as I recieved something in the mail I sent out a thank you and put a check by their name. So much easier, less to write out later. Also it makes them feel good to recieve the thank you right away.
Post # 7
Send a thank you now – absolutely. Especially since they handed it directly to you. If it were closer to the wedding, I may wait but you still have quite a bit of time. Definitely send one now.
Post # 8
I am writing out thank-you notes early, but I won’t be sending them until after the wedding because we want to include a little wallet sized wedding picture of us. We didn’t send out any photos with the invitations and some people were sad about it, so I figured this time we would send a photo along!