(Closed) We got our first gift for my bridal shower…which is supposed to be a surprise

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh, that’s a good question. My initial thought was that you should write a thank you for the gift so the sender things you got it and doesn’t start thinking/talking about how rude you are. It’s still possible for the shower to be a surprise. You don’t know any details, just that you’re having a shower. Unless she sent the invitation along with the gift then you don’t really know much and the cat is still in the bag. I wouldn’t mention anything to anybody and just send the thank you.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Are you sure it was for your shower?  Could have just been a gift.  Someone bought us toasting flutes.  ?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

lol.  is there a way you could pretend you didn’t know it was for your shower so she won’t feel guilty about ruining the surprise?  OR when is your shower?  maybe you could wait to open it (can you stuff it back in a gift bag or something?) until after the shower and pretend that your fiance or someone intercepted it and saved it for the shower?  maybe you could even have him call and tell her “it’s a surprise shower but don’t worry i got it and its safe, thanks”??

if none of those are possible, i’d just say thank you for the gift and say something like “i’m sorry, i don’t know if i’m going to be able to have a shower” or something to that effect, but still be thankful for the gift? so you still supposedly remain surprised but yet still said thanks?

idk!! gosh this is a tough one!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

ohh after reading the other comment i wanted to say maybe you could say thanks but you aren’t sure about the details of your shower, rather than you aren’t sure if you’re having one, and that you’ll get back to her when you know they’ve started planning!

if nothing else i hope i am bumping this so someone out there who has great advice will see this and give it to you!  good luck!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I got a couple gifts about a month before my shower also.  They were from MIL’s friends so I just called her and let her know who sent them and if it was a wedding gift or shower gift and she was able to tell me.

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