Post # 1
Today SO and I went out for an early dinner (sushi) and some bowling. We were having a great time. And then… he started acting like a little kid. He shoved his smelly socks in my face, and when we were walking down the street back to the car, all he could do was complain how far it was and that I needed to carry him (it was a joke but I didn;t think it was funny). Lately he has been acting so immature in general that this was the straw that broke the camel’s back. When he was parking the car when we got home, he asked what was wrong, because I seemed “moody”. I let that word slide and I told him that he’s just been acting really immature lately. He gave me this weird look that he didn’t know what I was talking about, and didn’t say anything else about it. I was frustrated that he didn’t seem the slightest bit interested in what he had done wrong, so I left it alone and started working on homework. Shortly after, he grabbed his bike and said “I’ll be back”, not mentioning when he would be back or where he was going “which was a little odd). When he returned, he had a bag from the liquor store, but he was gone for a really long time. I want to say it was an hour, though I didn’t look at the clock when he left. He’s not one to just go for a bike ride, so I’m very confused as to where he went. But I digress. Anyway, when he got back, he has been acting like nothing happened. I’m still sort of mad he doesn’t even want to know what he did wrong, like he doesn’t seem to care.
I don’t want to be his mommy! I want to be his girlfriend (well, his fiance)! This isn’t acceptable behavior for a 23 year old!
Am I overreacting? Any thoughts on what the deal is with him?
Post # 3
Hmm, I can understand your frustration but you should take a step back and chill out! His behavior is nothing surprising. Guys sometimes act like babies and it gets on our nerves! Just don’t take it personal. He will get over it.
I think him going for a bike ride and getting random liquor was his way of snapping out of his “mood”. It’s his problem and you don’t need to take it personal.
Post # 4
If you don’t want to be his mommy, then you should clearly communicate what was bothering you instead of punishing him. Tell him what bothered you and then if he ignores you then you have a right to be mad. We can’t expect that anyone will know what they did that bothered us. Life is too short to expect somone to analyze every situation they’re in. As to what he did, sorry, but I think this is normal guy stuff.
Post # 5
I agree @mwitter80
Communication is key! If he ignores you, then punish him 😀
Post # 6
23? Men at 23 are still acting like children (IMHO).
I would sit him aside when you are both calm, and talk about it- clearly tell him how it made you feel and what you don’t want- (like pushing smelly socks in your face). If he cares for you, he will see his actions and correct them.
Post # 7
My fiance is 35 and still acts like a kid sometimes, but he deals with it when I get all moody. It all evens out in the end.
Post # 8
23 year old boys are basically children. I have one at home 🙂 I just hope he will somehow grow up, but when I see his dad, I highly doubt it.
Post # 9
Mine is 24, and he is very much just like a large child, but he does mature a little bit with each passing year. However, if I don’t approve of his behavior, I do not hesitate to tell him exactly what I didn’t like-how else is he going to learn?
Post # 10
So heres the thing, mens brains don’t fully develop until they are 28 and women when they are 25 so we are developmentally 3 years above our male counterparts. 23 is still so young even for us girls and our clever brains. My partner and I are both 27 this year and he still does stuff that makes me wonder where the intellegent man I love went.
They do grow up eventually but don’t take life too seriously, it’s not his fault he is with a developmentally superior woman!
Post # 11
Most, if not all men, will always be a kid at heart. My fiance’ will fart then lock the windows so I can’t get fresh air. Does it gross me out? Uh yeah. But I don’t let it get to me because that’s just how men are. Even my dad…who is approaching 50…still does stuff like that. Or sings obnoxiously loud when he arrives from work. But they know when to be serious and take care of business. This is a balance most men will find as they get older.
Men are strange creatures, but that’s why we love them! Their strangeness complements womanly strangeness. 🙂
Post # 12
Your young, ligthen up….life is short as it is, have fun, goof around, serious people seem to age faster lol … live, love, laugh !!! Me personally, I love fun men, I love a little goofiness, at times I act immature too, nothing like a good laugh and being able to be oneself, comfortably with the person you love and trust !!
Post # 13
I reached out my hand last night to hold my 30 year old DH’s hand, and he turned around to reveal he was scratching his butt. He then proceeded to chase me around the house trying to put his “butt hand” in my face. The only way I got him to stop was to put my hand on my butt and try to stick it in his face. We were laughing so hard we couldn’t breath.
If my first reaction were to get mad at him and shut him down, it wouldn’t surprise me if he wanted to get out of the house for a bit and give me some space. Unless there is more to this story than him trying to put his socks in your face and joking for you to carry him to the car, I’d say you should lighten up and goof around a bit. It does wonders for a relationship.
Post # 14
@CanAmBride:You’re so right! It’s hard enough feeling like we have to “behave” at work…in many social situations…for this or that…but it’s nice to be with someone that you can be goofy with and not have to worried about being judged. And when a guy knows he can play around with you, well, he appreciates you that much more!