Post # 1
So Fi and I have been together for almost 5 years now. We’re in a great position in our lives, getting married in about 7 months, own a condo and travelled lots.
I am almost 26 and have not had unprotected sex yet… Until last night. Fi and I are into some “kinky” sex, and while I was unable to stop this… He did the unthinkable and pulled the goalie… He came inside me for the first time! Now I am a tad mortified because well, that’s not how I wanted our first time to be, and because our wedding is 7 months away an I have a beautiful dress I really want to fit into. (our wedding is booked and in Mexico so a flight is necessary).
We do plan on having babies shortly after the wedding so I’m really torn. I do know that the odds of becoming pregnant on the first and only “try” is slim… But knowing our luck, this would be us and I would end up pregnant. I think I have decided to take the morning after pill. I don’t want to however with the wedding and finances, I feel it’s just not the right time.
Am I doing the right thing? Please tell me what I should do but please don’t bash me. My heart already feels like its torn to shreds the more I think about the situation. I feel like I can’t win either way.
Post # 3
That’s tough. I can see both sides but coming from TTC for a year and a half with no luck, I’d take whatever I could get now. Good luck with whatever decision you make!
Post # 4
Take the pill. It seems like the right choice in the situation. Bad FI!
Post # 5
Take the pill!!! You never know!
Post # 6
There is no right or wrong answer – only what is right for you and your FI in this moment. You guys need to discuss both options and see where your hearts lead you.
Post # 7
Go for it. A friend used Plan B recently when her NuvaRing fell out and she didn’t know about it. Also, read this article from New York Times recently if your concern is moral: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/06/06/health/research/morning-after-pills-dont-block-implantation-science-suggests.html?pagewanted=all
Just remember, the sooner the better.
Post # 8
I think you need to do what you feel is right, if you want to take the morning after pill to put your mind at ease than go ahead and take it. This is a very personal choice and I would just do what feels right in your heart.
Post # 9
Morning after pill sounds like the exact right choice for you in this situation.
Post # 10
Also, bc aside…are you ok with what your FI did? From the way you phrased it, that didn’t sound like an “oopsie;” it sounded like he intentionally violated the rules you’d agreed to.
Post # 11
@Pappy8: If you’re playing odds, chances are you won’t get pregnant with that one romp. BUT if you are unready for children at this point, the morning after pill is only about $35 so it’s not breaking the bank like a baby would.
Also, please understand that the morning after pill is not an abortive pill. If there is any question in your mind, you can read about it here: http://www.lifesitenews.com/blog/is-it-true-the-morning-after-pill-does-not-cause-abortions
Post # 12
*hugs* The first time having unprotected sex is nerve-wracking, even if you’re trying for a baby!
If a baby is not in the cards for you right now, then the morning after pill is the way to go. Take it sooner rather than later, though, as it won’t abort a pregnancy that has implanted.
This is totally yours and DH’s decision. I hope you find some peace of mind! It can be a tough call.
Post # 13
Taking the morning after pill is no different in my eyes than any other form of birth control. If now is not the right time and it would save you a lot of heartache, take it! I am a bit confused by your story though… is your normal birth control the pull out method, because that really puts you at risk everytime anyway!
Post # 14
I would take the pill, to be honest. Chances are, you won’t get pregnant from just that one time.. but I wouldn’t risk it if I knew I wasn’t ready to have a child.
Post # 16
@MyFavouriteChords: we usually use condoms and the pill but I recently came off the pill to get ready to start trying after the wedding and like I said… Unfortunately he took it upon himself to “do the deed”