We had another conversation today…

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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2687 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@AirLaw:  I don’t have much advice for you, as I’m fairly against the use of “walk dates”. However, it’s good that he seems ready and excited. Don’t get too antsy yet, as you know it’s not happening for Christmas — you still have a whole 7 months or so until your date. 

Post # 5
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2687 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@AirLaw:  ohhhhhh I gotcha. See, THAT makes sense to me. The “propose by this date or we’re breaking up” stuff doesn’t. Well, I hope things work out for you. My advice would be to stick to your guns and don’t give in at the end of your timeline. 

Post # 6
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771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@AirLaw:  good for you. Normally I am against ultinatums but I agree yours really isn’t. You have a time frame because of lease which is very doable. It’s not fair for ladies to put their lives on hold and wait. You are giving him fair warning that you are ready to move to the next step hopefully with him but without if necessary. If after ten years he doesn’t do the right thing then you will. Good luck!

Post # 7
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1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@AirLaw:  I think you worded it in a very nice and respectful manner. You told him how you were feeling, laid out what you were expecting, and made it clear that you would move forward with your life choices if those expectations couldn’t be met. I think it was excellent that you made sure to tell him that you still would want to be a unit if things didn’t work out in the timeline you specified. It lets him know that you love him and you will always love him, but that you need to put your interests first and you need to consider what is best for you. I think you handled that very gracefully and maturally.

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