Post # 1
and 30% of our guests still have not RSVPed!! We did mostly online RSVPs (except the older generation and folks that we knew were very traditional got return cards and stamped envelopes), so I can’t imagine how it’s THAT HARD to go to our website and click “Decline” or “Accept”. Did anyone else have such a large percentage of missing RSVPs? I’m just so frustrated because with about 3 weeks left I just want to be able to finish the seating chart, escort cards, etc and that’s hard to do when we haven’t heard from 70 people! Ugh.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
I’m sorry to say that you will have to track down people. Unfortunately some people don’t see the ettiqette in returning RSVPs anymore. We had to track down like 12 rsvp’s out of the 120 people we invited! You still have a couple of days, you will be surprised how many will trickle in during the next three days!
Post # 4
Ugh, what a pain in the butt. I’m not looking forward to having to deal with this, lol. My anxiety level is going to rise waiting for people. Hopefully people will RSVP on time but I think I’ll probably split the list with my FI. If his family doesn’t RSVP back he can make the calls or his mama can LOL. If mine doesn’t I’ll handle that and then we can split our friends up accordingly. We have a bunch of mutual friends but we each have some friends not in our immediate group that we’re inviting as well. So we’ll split the mutual friends up (but more than likely I will take them on LOL >_>).
Good luck, you’re just gonna have to start making calls if you don’t get a response in the next couple of days. I think every bride hates having to think about this
Post # 5
We sent out 19 invitations and have so far gotten five back. Our deadline is the 30th. Granted, our wedding isn’t until October, so the time crunch isn’t on, yet.
Most of our invitations went to people out of state. We wanted to give everyone plenty of time to figure out if they could afford it / work it into their schedules / etc., so we sent them out on May 01. I know that it’s a lot of time, and six months before the wedding, but airfare isn’t cheap and it only gets more expensive as the day draws closer.
To be honest, the expectation was that they wouldn’t be coming, but we wanted to offer up the chance, just in case. Instead, though, some of the out-of-state family has surprised us by saying yes, while none of the in-state folks have said a thing. I ran the idea past some people, just to see if they’d be interested in coming so that we didn’t send out loads of invitations while hoping for a small turnout, and they all said yes. So the invitations were more about a formalized gesture and full of information. But even the people who said they’d love to come haven’t sent back a response letting us know whether to expect them and how many to count on.
Oh, well. I know I still have plenty of time. I’m not panicking or anything. I just don’t see what’s so terribly difficult (especially for people who live 30 minutes away and don’t have to take travel into account) about marking a little card and sending it back in the provided, self-addressed, stamped envelope.
Post # 6
I think the worst part is that many of these people have had weddings of their own, so they should know that RSVPs are important! I absolutely knew I’d have to track some people down, I just never thought this many people would disregard the deadline, especially since we’ve given them 6 weeks already. Glad to know I’m not the only one whose guests aren’t responsive though!
Post # 7
Question, can you use your online rsvp with smartphones or ipads? that is how many people surf the web these days. my family always gets mad because i take weeks to look at their funny email forwards, as i have to be on my real computer to do so (they don’t work on smartphones)!
Post # 8
@kerensa: That was a fantastic point and I hadn’t considered whether the website worked on iPhones/iPads, etc. So I just checked on my iPhone and it worked just the same as it did on the computer. (Darn it! I thought that would explain something!!) But thank you for trying to problem-solve with me!
Post # 9
I’m in the same boat. Deadline was the 15th. Still waiting on a few.
Post # 10
doesnt it drive you nuts.. we have our RSVP early, for a few reasons, so it’s 5 weeks to the wedding, plenty of time to chase people up, but our RSVP cut off is tomorrow and 4 groups havent replied. One is ok, that’s the best man (who may not be able to make it) and his family, but the rest are just hopeless! *screams*
Post # 11
Start callin’ sista!!
We are still receiving RSVP’s 10 days before the wedding, lol. We already called them and asked them to call us back, but instead to avoid embarrassment I am guessing they just sent it back. That’s all well and good, but it should have been on time as I already have my count in 🙂
You’re gonna deal with this. It’s normal.