Post # 1
Hi NYC Bees,
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Here, the two of us spend $1750 a month on rent; of course, we also both have cars, insurance, pay for gas etc.
I’m worried about finding a job in NYC. Here, I’m a school librarian (a job I LOVE), with 4 years of experience and 5 years of teaching experience before that. If I *don’t* find a job in a school in NY, will we be able to live somewhat comparably on his salary alone? I definitely want to work, and if I had a job there, I know we’d definitely be about the same financially….but without my salary, I’m a little hesitant about this move.
He’s always wanted to live in NYC (as have I), but the timing is so bad! We’re getting married here in September, so we’d both be flying back to Dallas for our own wedding. Plus…we’re 32, so we’re definitely not waiting *too* long to have kids, and the prospect of doing that in the city seems SO much more expensive than here. I don’t even want to THINK about the cost of childcare in Manhattan.
Advice? Reassurance? Warnings? Should we take it or not? Unfortunately, they want an answer by tomorrow.
Post # 3
Assurance — NYC is amazing. That’s a healthy salary for two people, even here. And you’ll probably get rid of at least one car. Also, there are a LOT of schools.
I just hope you get enough time to find a neighborhood that’s “you” before you need to move –they’re all so different, and being somewhere that makes you comfortable can make or break the NY experience. If you’re thinking kids I’d advise looking in Park Slope (Brooklyn) before Manhattan.
Post # 4
Your money isn’t going to go as far in nyc. In terms of space it will be a big adjustment, but I think that is more then enough to survive. After seven rounds of interviews I would go for it! Although I don’t think I could ever live there!
Post # 5
I’d check out a cost of living calculator to see how the salaries translates. [content removed- personally identifying information]
Another thing to consider is you wouldn’t necessarily have to live in Manhattan. Or even Brooklyn. The suburbs are also incredibly expensive but not quite like Manhattan.
Post # 6
@BookGirrl: I live in NYC (technically Jersey City, but I’m on the Hudson across from Manhattan and I work in the city). I’ve been here for almost three years and I love it! I think you could definitely make it work, even if it took you a little while to find a job. My FI’s and my combined income is way less than what your Fiance will be making alone, and we live comfortably and are very happy here. Rent up here for a nice one bedroom will be significantly more than $1750 a month. Depending on where you live, it can be quite expensive, but some areas are less than others. As I said, we live in Jersey City and we like it here. Our rent is higher than $1750, but it’s still on the low end for the size of apartment we have. I have about a 30 min. commute to my work in Midtown, which is great. Hoboken is also a great place to live, as are Brooklyn and Queens if you’re looking to keep apartment costs lower. All of those places can be significantly less than Manhattan. But if you’re set on living in Manhattan, I think you could still make it work, though the apartment would likely be smaller than you’re used to. You might also want to consider selling your cars. If you live in or in close proximity to the city, they aren’t very useful unless you plan on a lot of long car trips, and the garage prices can be crazy! As for having kids, you could always consider living in the city for a couple of years since that’s what you’ve dreamed of, and then moving to a more suburban area (NJ, upstate NY, CT) for having kids. That’s what I plan on doing, at least. From what I’ve seen, I don’t think I’d want kids while living in the city. Lots of people seem to manage it, though, so it’s really down to what you prefer.
Anyway, sorry this is so long, I’m not sure how helpful it is but I have loved living here! It can take some getting used to–it can be ridiculously crowded and I will be honest, there are days that I get fed up with the crowds and everything and I’m like, “Ugh, I hate this city!” That doesn’t happen often, but it can be a love/hate relationship. I would say more love than hate though 🙂 But it can definitely be done on your FI’s salary. Most of my friends make much less than that since we’re only a few years out of school, and everyone lives perfectly comfortably. Good luck with your decision, let me know if you have any more questions!
Post # 7
So crazy, but before my husband and I bought our house in Dallas, we thought about moving to NYC too (husband’s company has an office there) and if they were willing to hit a certain number, we would of considered it further.
Basing it on his new salary alone & what you have in Dallas – you could maybe have somewhat the same lifestyle, but only if you don’t live in the city. Brooklyn would prob be your best choice.
I totally know what you mean about having a certain lifestyle in Dallas! Don’t know if you guys own a home here in the D, but this is another reason that I don’t think my husband and I will move, we just have such a great life here, have our own pool & hot tub, travel mutltiple times a year, and I don’t want to give up or lifestyle for a small studio apt in NYC. :/
You both just need to think about the type of life you want to have & if Dallas or NYC would best fit your needs.
Post # 8
You can definitely survive on that salary for two people. For the price you’re currently paying for in rent, you can probably get a decent one bedroom in Queens (Astoria or LIC seem to be the most transplant-friendly). If you want a one bedroom in Manhattan, I think the average price is about $2600. Though you’ll definitely get more for your money in terms of space if you venture outside of Manhattan. I think the overall rule of thumb for renting is your salary has to be 40x 1 month’s rent. Oh yeah, don’t be surprised if you have to pay a brokers fee when you find a place.
Check out the different neighborhoods and boroughs and see what feels right for you and your fiance, and don’t be afraid to explore beyond Manhattan! Manhattan is incredibly overrated. I’ve lived in NYC for almost a decade and I’ve lived in 3 of the 5 boroughs, plus NJ. Every place I’ve lived has had it’s own distinct personality. Park Slope is definitely one of the most kid friendly neighborhoods- baby friendly in particular – I always found myself stepping aside for strollers.
Post # 9
@BookGirrl: Totally doable for both of you to live on that salary if you don’t find a job–though you will have to get used to how the different the cost of living is here in NYC vs. Dallas. It won’t be a struggle, but it will be different. You won’t need both cars. You’ll pay more than $1750 (is that for a 1 or 2 bedroom). Childcare will be expensive. But all that being said, that’s a good salary to live on, even here. And once you find a job, even if it takes awhile, you’ll have additional money.
I agree that Park Slope, BK would be a great neighborhood if you’re thinking about children.
MY Darling Husband and I make less than that combined–we live in Brooklyn, don’t have cars, and eat out/hang out often and are still able to pay all our bills, (including my large student loan), and save some money every month. Though I wish we had your FI’s salary!
Post # 10
I would not recommend living in queens! It is a great place to raise kids, and has bigger houses. However when I visit my cousin, taking the train into the city takes forever! I would go for Brooklyn for sure!
Post # 11
I live in Manhattan on the Upper East Side and absolutely love it. I do not recommend living outside of Manhattan. Even certain areas of Manhattan are questionable. What do you think you could afford to spend on rent each month? There should be a neighborhood that meets your price range 🙂 Best of luck and welcome to NYC!
Post # 12
I think it is definitely doable to live on your Fiance salary and I also think everyone should experience living in NYC at some point 🙂 As far as you finding a job, I think it may be very difficult. I am a teacher and they’ve laid off teachers in my district every year for the last few years due to budget cuts. Good luck with your decision!
Post # 13
@TwoCityBride: There are neighborhoods in Queens which are very close to Manhattan (20 min or less to midtown on the subway). But Brooklyn is closer to downtown.
@BookGirrl: You can certainly live in NYC on that salary, but if you want a big luxury apartment in Manhattan it could be tight. I’m not saying you can’t do it, you definitely can, but I don’t know what kind of lifestyle you are accustomed to. You are likely to have a lot less space than you are used to. Your money will go farther in Brooklyn/Queens, definitely.
Did you both always want to move to NYC? I find it concerning that this company is only giving you 24 hours to make such an important decision.
Post # 14
Uh, I would kill to have your husband’s salary.
Our combined salary is nowhere near that and we still live a very good, comfortable life in a nice neighborhood in Brooklyn. It’s doable and you would be more than comfortable on his salary.
I might be biased, but NYC is the best (specifically, Brooklyn!)
Post # 15
oh. my. goodness.
idk what i’d do if i had that much money. LOL.
just told Fiance & he’s pretty jealous too.
he said he doesn’t feel like a man now LOL.
Post # 16
Have you considered living in the suburbs? The cost of living is cheaper in CT and many people commute to NYC. That would be great for you. Plus, you could look for a place to work in CT as well.