- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I last posted to say that my ring was lost in the mail. Well, I contacted the seller and they said that all the other packages that went out with our shipment had been delivered days ago, and that yes, ours was most likely lost. They refunded us in full, and offered a 10% discount + free FedEx Overnight on our next order. I thought, “Great! We can just reorder the same ring and it’ll be here Monday or Tuesday!” I went to the item’s page and…sold out. In all sizes. They said that they wouldn’t be restocking for 2+ weeks, and we just do not have the time to wait for that (we want to announce the engagement next Thursday or Friday when my whole out-of-town family is here for my graduation). I was super upset at the awful luck we were having and I moped and grudgingly ring shopped elsewhere for a while.
Then I realized that I don’t need to have the blingiest most amazing unique ring in the world; I just wanted something to symbolize our engagement. Putting all this emphasis on how the ring looked was just plain silly. I would love anything we picked out together, because it would forever hold the memory of that exciting shopping trip. If we had gotten that original ring, all I would think of looking at it would be the stressful 2 weeks of waiting for the mail.
I have been so damn frustrated lately with being, for all intents and purposes, engaged, but not being able to tell anyone because we both think that having the physical marker of the ring makes the announcement all the more exciting, so we are not announcing it until the ring is on my finger. All I want is to be officially engaged to the man I love, and to be able to share that happiness with my friends and family, and if a ring is what will make that happen officially then let’s pick a damn ring already. The “perfect” ring wasn’t what mattered to me anymore; it was the symbol and the actual being engaged and ultimately married that I cared about. SO agreed.
And so yesterday, we decided to take a trip to Jared’s. We went in with the mindset that we would be leaving with a ring physically in our hands, and that we did. I remembered the setting from the first time we’d gone there, it had a 3mm white gold shank with four teeny-tiny channel set diamonds down each side. No super bling. No antique detailing. Just simple, and when I tried it on, I realized how truly perfect it felt. That was the first ring I had tried on on our first shopping trip, which was possibly one of the most exciting days of my life thus far, and now I have it to wear and remind myself the rest of my life of the excitement of that day.
I was texting my aunt about all of this and she said, “You know, when I got engaged, I never really had a ‘proposal’…I considered us engaged when we started talking about marriage, and when the ring was ready at the jeweler’s I had to go with him to try it on for size, and as soon as that ring was on my finger it wasn’t coming off! We went home right after and starting calling people to make the announcement. Screw all that surprise proposal crap!” And I realized now that I feel exactly the same way. For our situation now it would feel absolutely silly to go to the jeweler’s, get the ring back, give it to SO, and have him “formally” present it/propose like, what, the next day? He agrees. (And that’s not to knock all you who had/want a surprise proposal, if things had gone differently for us that’s exactly what I would have wanted, but it just feels like a petty formality for us at this point.) Every time I’ve tried it on since yesterday (which is, erm, a lot haha) all the excitement comes back to me, all the feelings I felt as we were finally, finally purchasing and this headache was over, the look we gave each other when I showed him the ring on my hand and we both agreed that “this was it”…THAT was our “proposal” moment, and I’m sure we’ll have other moments: when we pick it up from the jeweler’s, when I first start wearing it, when we call/tell the first family members, when I surprise my grandma who I normally only see once a year if I’m lucky…those moments all mean as much to us as a surprise proposal would have.
So tomorrow I take the ring to the jeweler’s to get sized and have the stone set (and keep all your fingers and toes crossed for me that my jeweler will work with moissanite…I think I’ll just explode if we hit *another* roadblock here!) and it should be ready in time for graduation on the 17th!!! My grandma and cousin’s flights have been booked and all the plans are in place. I will come back to share the “official” news when it happens and share lots of ring pics!