Post # 1
This is just a vent. I don’t really know if there is any advice to give, except maybe how to get over it.
This weekend, my FI and I had a party at our home. On the guest list were 20 or so friends we’ve known for years, one friend we’ve known for a couple of years (we’ll call him Fred), one friend’s new boyfriend, and our next door neighbors, who we are just getting to know. It was a great party, and everyone had a good time. However, on Sunday night, as I was going to pay for dinner, I realized that all the cash that was in my wallet was now missing.
Now, I don’t usually carry cash at all – I’m a big fan of just using my debit card everywhere. However, my debit card was expiring, and I had not yet received the new one from the bank, so I had between 40 – 60 dollars in my wallet. After I had put that money in there, I received the new debit card, so I had only used a little of the cash, and the last time I remember using any of it was on Wednesday. So that’s a three-day gap between when I last used it and when I noticed it was all missing. It could have been taken by a coworker on Thursday or Friday, or by one of our friends or our neighbors on Saturday.
I’m so pissed and hurt that someone that I know would steal from me. I don’t really know who did it. About two years ago, another friend “lost” her camera at a party that had a lot of the same people at it, and she was convinced that Fred had taken it, but we all just thought she’d somehow permanently misplaced it. Now I’m not so sure. I don’t really know if Fred is the culprit, but I’m really starting to wonder if one of my friends is a thief.
For the wedding-related aspect, I guess this means that now I need to make sure someone is keeping an eye on the card box, don’t I?
Post # 3
Ugh that SUCKS. I had a very close friend in high school who we discovered was stealing money from my parents. Since then I’ve been really guarded. We were away on vacation and my MIL was at the house. One of our friends came over to pick up some stuff DH had left for him for work and my MIL saw him leave with some beer too. Nice of him to pick up a treat for himself huh? DH confronted him and he wasn’t very apologetic. Needless to say, he hasn’t been back at our house since. Sticky fingers do not make for good friends.
Assign someone burly the task of keeping an eye on Fred and his five finger discount. Have someone you trust lock up your cardbox in your bridal suite or a room only you have the key to during dinner.
Post # 4
ahh this is awful!
Definitely keep an eye on the cardbox! My parents had their wedding money stolen.
Post # 5
That is so frustrating. Over the years we have had many things stolen from us, an ipod, a ring my mother gave me, designer sunglasses, three xbox controllers (I still don’t know how they managed that), an xbox game, some of my prescription medication.
It’s ridiculous- and I am so glad we no longer have the roommate that threw all those parties. We installed locks on the bedroom after the ring went missing, it was on the bedside table- I blame myself for the ipod because I had left it in the bathroom.
We did get two of the xbox controllers back after a friend of a friend found out where they had come from- and that person was not a regular at the parties and insisted he only took two (Because you know, when you lose 3 controllers in one night obviously 2 are taken by one person and the other is taken by a completely different person)
And it isn’t easy to accuse your friends of stealing- for the most part we let it go despite hundreds of dollars worth of items going missing.
Long story short- we will be glad to be in our own place next year.
I’m so sorry you have to deal with this.
Post # 6
Ugh, I have zero tolerance for theft – my house in college was broken into & 2 years ago my car was broken into, it makes me sick!
@PinkMagnolia: That is one of the most awful things I’ve ever heard – I really hope it was a vendor that took it, b/c if it was a family member of friend that is just salt in the wound.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry!
Last summer, a friend of FH and mine got into drugs (oxycontin). But before we really knew about the drug use, we had him and a few other people over and the next morning my FH’s new guitar and iPod were missing. We weren’t positive who took the items, but then another friend’s laptop got stolen and when she went to look for it at the pawn shop (she had a hunch), that “friend’s” signature was on the pawn ticket. It was really sad. He ended up leaving town because he screwed over a lot of our friends.
So I know what you’re going through.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
It is just an awful feeling, isn’t it? A year ago this week my car was broken into, and last week someone stole some stuff from my classroom, of all places. It just feels awful that someone thinks they’re entitled to your stuff. 🙁
Post # 9
That’s awful. Years ago either a roommate or a guest of a roommate stole all the money out of my wallet AND a work deposit which I of course had to reimburse to my job. NOT fun at all. Needless to say I didn’t live there long.
Post # 10
Ugh that is the worst!! I hosted a day-after brunch for my brother’s wedding at our house and someone stole our CAR KEYS. Like… what? And it couldn’t have even been a mistake because my key ring was still on the hook. Only my actual car key was missing. And it was only family that was here!
I’m 95% sure that my cousin’s kids did it because they’ve stolen random things from my parents’ house before (like drum sticks)…. but what would a 13 year old and 11 year old want with car keys?? (They did not steal the car. just the key).
Post # 11
I had a camera (VERY expensive camera) stolen, but I’d also left it on a chair on the front of the apartment house.
After I called the neighbor (because I KNEW it was either one of her kids on one of their friends) and told her I didn’t want her kid to get into trouble THEN called the police, one of the neighbor’s son’s friends brought it back. (the neighbor already has one in juvie hall due to a “hold-up” of a pizza guy… brilliant, aren’t they?)
I called the officer and told her it’d be returned. I’ve NEVER left anything other than cheap-o cups on the front porch again!
Post # 12
My sister used to be friends with some really shady people and to this day I can’t prove it but I swear one of them stole my life savings, $800 out of my wallet that was hidden in my room. My sister wouldn’t have done it and for sure it wasn’t any of my friends. Luckily I no longer have to worry about this since I don’t carry cash and my sister is friends with better people, but that was really upsetting.
Post # 13
My first week in NYC, someone stole my rent money. I sat in front of Canal Jeans (now defunct) and BAWLED like a baby. My poor immigrant parents with no money had scrimped and saved to give me the money to move to NYC and at least pay some rent and some lowlife stole it. Anytime I think about it, I get upset all over again 🙁
Post # 14
My camera got stolen when I was a bridesmaid at my friends wedding and I have NO clue who took it. It was one of the people who was responsible for getting our clothes and bags over to the reception from the church, but there were 3-5 girls who did that, and I didn’t know all of them. I thought they were really trustworthy, and didn’t discover it was stolen until a day later.
Post # 15
uggghhh – i hate hearing this stuff. im at a birthday party this weekend and my gift is paying for security so i’ll be carrying $800 in cash on me all night and im afraid to put my purse down because i dont know the majority of the guests
Post # 16
Hate this! One of my friends had about $2000 cash and a few game systems stolen a few weeks ago, and then whoever it was broke in AGAIN this past weekend and stole everything else (5 flat screen tvs, laptops, etc.). He is moving at the end of this month thankfully, but its awful.
I had an ipod go missing at my last apartment. My roommate had some shady friends who would come play poker late at night while I was asleep or gone. Pretty sure it was one of them. I know it wasn’t my roommate. He accidently packed up my ipod speakers when we moved out, but returned those once he realized he had them. He’s completely trustworthy. And I thought his friends, although shady, had more respect for both of us than that. Apparently not.