(Closed) We have a wedding band and not an engagment ring but I’m just all confused! HELP

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Busy bee

I know  that it would mean a lot to you to have your grandmother’s ring put to good use, but if you aren’t happy with it, you need to get what you like.

I know a lot of heirloom rings don’t get used if they’re plain. You could always wear her ring on a necklace or maybe wear it on another finger on your wedding day. Another option is that you could take it to a jeweler and have it melted down into another piece of jewelry.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would go with the set you’ve fallen in love with and wear your grandmother’s ring on another finger, or on a chain around your neck!  It’s lovely that you have something of hers to hold onto, but you are not required to wear it on your left hand as an e-ring or wedding band!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Flipflop bride suggested the same things I was going to.  Unless you really want it to be your band, if it’s plain, I’d wear it on a chain or another finger.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i’d wear your grandmother’s ring as a right hand ring, if you’re in to white gold you could always rhodium plate it.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I have my grandmother’s engagement ring.  Nothing super fancy, just a simple ring with a tiny diamond that my grandfather gave her right after he got home from the war.  Although I would have been fine with using it as my engagement ring (I am hugely sentimental!) my husband wanted to create a ring himself.  I now wear her engagement everyday as a right-hand-ring.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I’d wear your grandmother’s wedding band on another finger if you found a different set that you love. There’s no reason it has to be your wedding band, but you can still honor it in another way without having to match your e-ring to her band.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

MissPenny and I do exactly the same thing, my FI wanted my e-ring to be something he gave me, so I wear my grandmother’s ring on my right hand.

I agree with everyone — there is a way to incorporate your grandmother’s ring in your life without giving up the ring set you love.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

if you’ve found another set that you love and can afford, i would go with that. you could always wear your grandmother’s band on your other hand or around your neck. If it were me,  might use the gold for another piece of jewelry (melt it down and use the gold), so that I could have a piece of jewelry that I would wear more often that had the sentimental value.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I was thinking the same thing LatteLove said.  Just cause your grandmother gave you her wedding band doesn’t mean you have to wear it as your own.  I was thinking that the ring as a necklace was a good idea!  Just get something you love!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

tif– do you mean all on the same hand? stacked up? i think that might be distracting, honestly. plus, generally you wear your wedding band closest to your heart, so it would be “heirloom wedding band, engagement ring, THEN anniversay band on top”. I have my meemaw’s wedding band that has 5 diamonds in it. i wear it every single day as a right hand ring. i love looking down on it and seeing it there. as long as you are wearing it and loving it, i dont think it matters that much HOW you wear it.

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