Post # 1
May 2009, my bf lost his maternal grandfather and I lost my maternal grandmother within 5 days of each other. It was a really hard time for both of us.
I am the only granddaughter on that side of the family and my mom only has one sister. My grandmother left my aunt her engagement ring, me her wedding band, and my mom her anniversary band. The wedding band is a small and very thin 14k yellow gold band with no detailing and no inscription on it.
Fast forward to present day. We have been living together for 2 years now. We share our finances and have decided together that we get engaged. A few months ago we were looking at rings and I fell in love with a set even though I had my grandmothers wedding band to use(similiar to a <span style=”font-size: xx-small; color: #555555;”>Channel-Set Diamond Ring and Band in 18k White Gold). I’m really unsure of what to do here.
These are what I think are my options:
- go with the set that I’ve fallen in love with. and find something else to do with my grandmothers ring.
- find a gold ring that goes well with the wedding band
- another idea listed below
Post # 3
I know that it would mean a lot to you to have your grandmother’s ring put to good use, but if you aren’t happy with it, you need to get what you like.
I know a lot of heirloom rings don’t get used if they’re plain. You could always wear her ring on a necklace or maybe wear it on another finger on your wedding day. Another option is that you could take it to a jeweler and have it melted down into another piece of jewelry.
Post # 4
I would go with the set you’ve fallen in love with and wear your grandmother’s ring on another finger, or on a chain around your neck! It’s lovely that you have something of hers to hold onto, but you are not required to wear it on your left hand as an e-ring or wedding band!
Post # 5
Flipflop bride suggested the same things I was going to. Unless you really want it to be your band, if it’s plain, I’d wear it on a chain or another finger.
Post # 6
i’d wear your grandmother’s ring as a right hand ring, if you’re in to white gold you could always rhodium plate it.
Post # 7
I have my grandmother’s engagement ring. Nothing super fancy, just a simple ring with a tiny diamond that my grandfather gave her right after he got home from the war. Although I would have been fine with using it as my engagement ring (I am hugely sentimental!) my husband wanted to create a ring himself. I now wear her engagement everyday as a right-hand-ring.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’d wear your grandmother’s wedding band on another finger if you found a different set that you love. There’s no reason it has to be your wedding band, but you can still honor it in another way without having to match your e-ring to her band.
Post # 9
MissPenny and I do exactly the same thing, my FI wanted my e-ring to be something he gave me, so I wear my grandmother’s ring on my right hand.
I agree with everyone — there is a way to incorporate your grandmother’s ring in your life without giving up the ring set you love.
Post # 10
if you’ve found another set that you love and can afford, i would go with that. you could always wear your grandmother’s band on your other hand or around your neck. If it were me, might use the gold for another piece of jewelry (melt it down and use the gold), so that I could have a piece of jewelry that I would wear more often that had the sentimental value.
Post # 11
I was thinking the same thing LatteLove said. Just cause your grandmother gave you her wedding band doesn’t mean you have to wear it as your own. I was thinking that the ring as a necklace was a good idea! Just get something you love!
Post # 12
I think the hardest thing for me is the guilt that I have that it won’t be used as a wedding band. I’ve thought about getting that set and using the wedding band that belongs to the set as a anniversary ring and using my grandmothers ring as the wedding band. so it would be white gold engagement ring, tiny simple gold wedding band and then white gold wedding band as anniversary band…what do you think of this option
Post # 13
tif– do you mean all on the same hand? stacked up? i think that might be distracting, honestly. plus, generally you wear your wedding band closest to your heart, so it would be “heirloom wedding band, engagement ring, THEN anniversay band on top”. I have my meemaw’s wedding band that has 5 diamonds in it. i wear it every single day as a right hand ring. i love looking down on it and seeing it there. as long as you are wearing it and loving it, i dont think it matters that much HOW you wear it.