I’m not upset that there’s no proposal yet. We’ve both agreed a year long engagement is about as much as we could handle. I get to overwhelmed with options and then comparing all of the pros and cons if I’m given too much time.
To further elaborate on the story, we were discussing his OCS plans, what would happen if he didn’t get his paperwork done before the deadline next week. The answer was he would do it next year from the end of July to the end of September. I jokingly told him this wouldn’t mesh with my plans and he agreed that it didn’t work with his either.
Then he wanted to know what my plans were, and we went back and forth for a long time about who should answer first. Eventually I broke down and said I want to get married next fall. And he was like ‘really?” I felt like I said the wrong thing. And he was like, ‘no it was at the back of my brain but I didn’t think that was what you’d say, I thought you wanted to move in together this fall.”
I made major unhappy face and said, ‘No, I’m not moving in with you until we’re married. I already told you that.”
So he said, “No, I know that but I guess like I thought you wanted to get your own place and I would stay during the week and stuff.” (He lives rather far from our work.)
I said ‘sometimes but not all the time.’ I kinda have this, why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free mentality (so does my mom, which is why he has to sleep on the couch when he visits, lol. She is thinking about buying him an air mattress though.)
And he went, ‘oh so, next fall? That sounds nice, I wasn’t sure if you wanted spring or fall.’
So we whipped out my phone to consider dates and he chose it and wrote it in on October 1, 2011. The he asked me if I felt better about my plan. I’ve totally been stressing about how much things are up in the air because of the military. But he got a call today and he’ll be doing OCS this year, so much better!