Post # 1
So a previous pregnancy scare has moved my husband and I to have a serious talk. We have realized we would like to be parents. We have decided to begin ttc when my husband ranks up to ensure we have the ablility to save more money before the arrival of a child.
My issue, however, is the wait. He will either rank up in late March or late December. That is a nine month difference so I am trying not to get too excited at the prospect of getting pregnant in the near future. I also know that getting pregnant can be difficult and my cycles have been odd lately, which I will be bringing up during my yearly appointment on Jan. 27th.
I guess it would be easier if I knew how things were going to work out, but of course I can’t know those things. Any ladies experiencing this as well?
Post # 3
@miss_military: I can’t really relate to your exact situation, but I can relate to hating being in ‘limbo’!! I’m such a planner, I can’t stand not knowing when things are going to happen, but “c’est la vie”! FX for you that he will rank up in March!!
Post # 4
@miss_military: not experiencing this but just wanted to say good luck trying whenever that will be!
Post # 5
I’m not in the same position, but I understand feeling anxious and just wanting to know. It’s not really the nine months of waiting between March and December, it’s this purgatory of not knowing which it will be, right?
We won’t be TTC for a minimum of three years, and probably more like five. We’re still young and we want to get some stuff hammered out and lined up first. I wish we had more of an idea though! I would feel so much more secure just having a date, even if it’s a little further away than I was hoping.
Everything will work out 🙂 plan on December and keep a little beacon of hope for March!
Post # 6
As another planner, it’s really, really hard to not be able to predict how long it will take to get pregnant. You have to be on standby for it to take one shot, or for it to take 5, 6 months +! Good thing the actual pregnancy lasts another 9 months, giving plenty of time to research and plan.
I sympathize, but think it’s great that you’ve made a decision. Here’s hoping for a swift TTC journey.
Post # 7
We aren’t TTC yet, but I just wanted to drop by and say congrats that it is coming SOON. Some ladies on here have baby fever, but their SOs aren’t ready, and probably won’t be for years to come! Just imagine having it for years and years!
We are still quite young, so we are waiting anywhere from 3-10 years to have kids. That’s a HUGE gap. I love children, and if I found out today I was pregnant I would want to keep the baby because we are in an okay position to do so, but I know my SO just is not ready for it yet.
Maybe the best thing to do is to fill your free time over the next 2-9 months with a new hobby, volunteering or something. That way you can feel great about preparing for your new arrival. Is him ranking up guaranteed by December? If so, maybe you can discuss with him starting a few months before December that way you still have time to save up some money, but you aren’t waiting until December to START trying. Often times it takes more than one try (especially when you’re actually trying LOL).
Post # 8
@beetee123: It is certain he will rank up by December and we are both so excited and ready to bring a new life into this crazy world! I am super lucky that we are both ready and hope the best for all you wonderful women who have wished me luck and baby dust on our journey.