Post # 1
A daft woman wrote an this “article” http://thoughtcatalog.com/amy-glass/2014/01/i-look-down-on-young-women-with-husbands-and-kids-and-im-not-sorry/ spewing hate towards women who choose to have babies and husbands. A thread was posted here about the article and the first link in this post is a response to that asinine piece of writing. I think the both “authors” are ridiculous and self righteous.
I wish that parents and childfree folks could simply respect each other’s choices. I am not a militant childfree woman who hates children and parents. I respect good parents. I also love being around polite and friendly children.
What do you think about the article about looking down on childfree people?
Post # 3
I think things like this are just written for shock value. A lot seem to be circulating on the bee lately.
Post # 4
@PositiveThinking: I agree- both authors are ridiculous. It’s like the articles that went around awhile ago about marrying young. I wish people would just stop judging each other for their choices. Especially when those choices don’t affect them…
I saw a link to an article about how people who don’t have children will lead an empty life. What a sad, sad article. Imagine if someone who can’t have kids comes across it (like quite a few of the people in the comments section) and how that would make them feel.
I’m not sure if I want kids yet but both of the articles you posted upset me because of the amount of judging going on.
Post # 5
@PositiveThinking: ” If you go the giddy Child Free way (i.e. I will never, ever have children), you may get your wish, and your life will end with depressing consequence.”
I stopped reading after that. Both these articles are extremely black and white. Her rebuttal doesn’t paint her or her opinions in a better light.
The child free ideology was created because women started realizing that having children was a choice, and that choice should make them feel empowered, not inadequate. There has always been more hate toward the child-free, more prying questions, more disgust thrown their way for their choices.
Now that women and men are defending their decisions, there is backlash from the parents. They don’t want to feel they made the wrong choice or that not having kids could somehow be better. I mean, “you really don’t know love until you’ve had a child…you really don’t know tired until you’ve had a child, you haven’t accomplished anything until you have a child”.
I get that the child-free author wishes other milestones in life were celebrated more. I do find it odd that my father is throwing down thousands of dollars for a wedding but refused to help me buy books my first semester of college.
Post # 6
Yeah… these are just for shock value. You have to ignore it.
Post # 7
She acts like people having babies aren’t worth anything and people should focus on other things……well if everyone stopped having babies the world would be no more. Either she hates her own mother or her mother doesn’t know she felt this way because no woman who has actually gone through pregnancy and birth would feel that it was useless and ‘average’. People make me sick, really. I feel terribly bad for this author she lacks genuine compassion. I hope she enjoys being alone with her 29 cats and backpacks and hemp milk forever.
Post # 8
I don’t understand why people have such a vested interest in how other people choose to live their lives. Some people shouldn’t have kids, and its always better for everyone when they know it. It doesn’t make them less of a worthy human being. Some people are natural born parents, and that’s a beautiful thing. Neither is better than other. Who cares!
I think the bigger question here is how we ended up in a society where everyone feels the need to share their every unsolicited opinion on every matter via social media. Its exhausting! If people spent more time actually doing something about all these convictions they feel the need to get on soap box about, it would be a different world entirely. Instead, they write a blog. I wish I could find a way to put all the virtual hot air that’s on the internet into a zeppelin. I’d fly around the world!
Post # 9
Spewing bullshit for shock value which = website hits thus helping the “writer” (troll) make more money is the norm these days
Post # 10
+1 So true! People tell me that I should have a blog, but I don’t think the world needs another one of those.
Post # 11
@PositiveThinking: I think having a blog is fine if you are writing about yourself and your own experiences(like the WB blogs, those are so fun). Its the blogs written by armchair political scientists and psuedo philosophers that are creating unnecessary internet traffic. These people need a hobby!
Post # 12
As a woman with “lady problems” that significantly reduce the chance I’ll ever be able to have children, I didn’t find either of those NEARLY as incindiary as I found this polished turd:
Post # 13
@PositiveThinking: I would ignore both articles. The “your life is meaningless if you are not a mom” folks are equally as awful as the “ew, breeders!” folks. I find that all extremes tend to be bad – religion, opinions, etc.
Post # 14
@Footballwife: I’m going to jump in a second. I’ve been through childbirth (my baby did not make it) and I don’t feel that the experience was more than average.
Post # 15
Jesus Christ. I read some of that article and I stopped when she compared childfree people to racists.
Idiots who think that life is meaningless without children should meet parents of serial killers. Not all children grow up to be productive and responsible adults.
I feel sorry for those who are dumb enough to think that life begins and ends with being a parent. I guess Oprah had a meaningless life then?
Post # 16
Very sorry about your loss.
I will never go through childbirth. However, it is an experience which is extremely common among women. I guess one could argue that childbirth is average for that reason…