We Look Down On Childfree Ideology and We're Not Sorry.

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I think things like this are just written for shock value. A lot seem to be circulating on the bee lately. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@PositiveThinking:  I agree- both authors are ridiculous. It’s like the articles that went around awhile ago about marrying young. I wish people would just stop judging each other for their choices. Especially when those choices don’t affect them…

I saw a link to an article about how people who don’t have children will lead an empty life. What a sad, sad article. Imagine if someone who can’t have kids comes across it (like quite a few of the people in the comments section) and how that would make them feel. 

I’m not sure if I want kids yet but both of the articles you posted upset me because of the amount of judging going on.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@PositiveThinking: ” If you go the giddy Child Free way (i.e. I will never, ever have children), you may get your wish, and your life will end with depressing consequence.”

I stopped reading after that. Both these articles are extremely black and white. Her rebuttal doesn’t paint her or her opinions in a better light.

The child free ideology was created because women started realizing that having children was a choice, and that choice should make them feel empowered, not inadequate. There has always been more hate toward the child-free, more prying questions, more disgust thrown their way for their choices.

Now that women and men are defending their decisions, there is backlash from the parents. They don’t want to feel they made the wrong choice or that not having kids could somehow be better. I mean, “you really don’t know love until you’ve had a child…you really don’t know tired until you’ve had a child, you haven’t accomplished anything until you have a child”.

I get that the child-free author wishes other milestones in life were celebrated more. I do find it odd that my father is throwing down thousands of dollars for a wedding but refused to help me buy books my first semester of college.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yeah… these are just for shock value. You have to ignore it.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

She acts like people having babies aren’t worth anything and people should focus on other things……well if everyone stopped having babies the world would be no more. Either she hates her own mother or her mother doesn’t know she felt this way because no woman who has actually gone through pregnancy and birth would feel that it was useless and ‘average’. People make me sick, really. I feel terribly bad for this author she lacks genuine compassion. I hope she enjoys being alone with her 29 cats and backpacks and hemp milk forever. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

I don’t understand why people have such a vested interest in how other people choose to live their lives. Some people shouldn’t have kids, and its always better for everyone when they know it. It doesn’t make them less of a worthy human being. Some people are natural born parents, and that’s a beautiful thing. Neither is better than other. Who cares!

I think the bigger question here is how we ended up in a society where everyone feels the need to share their every unsolicited opinion on every matter via social media. Its exhausting! If people spent more time actually doing something about all these convictions they feel the need to get on soap box about, it would be a different world entirely. Instead, they write a blog. I wish I could find a way to put all the virtual hot air that’s on the internet into a zeppelin. I’d fly around the world!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Spewing bullshit for shock value which = website hits thus helping the “writer” (troll) make more money is the norm these days

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

@PositiveThinking:  I think having a blog is fine if you are writing about yourself and your own experiences(like the WB blogs, those are so fun). Its the blogs written by armchair political scientists and psuedo philosophers that are creating unnecessary internet traffic. These people need a hobby!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@PositiveThinking:  I would ignore both articles. The “your life is meaningless if you are not a mom” folks are equally as awful as the “ew, breeders!” folks. I find that all extremes tend to be bad – religion, opinions, etc. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Footballwife:  I’m going to jump in a second. I’ve been through childbirth (my baby did not make it) and I don’t feel that the experience was more than average. 

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