Post # 1
So my shower is fast approaching and my Fiance and I are finding that nothing has been purchased from our registries…
I know people can get us whatever they want..
but we purposely put a wide price range of gift options, we didn’t want anyone to feel that had to spend lots of money to get us something off our registry. We did this specifically to avoid getting random gifts. although we knew we’d get some..it’s starting to feel like that’s all we’re getting.
additionally we spent WEEKS on our registries.
Truthfully (as b*tchy as this sounds) we only want stuff from our registry…we have lived together for years and don’t need a bunch of potholders…ect.
Sigh I guess I’m just getting frustrated thinking about how much stuff is going to end up getting returned. But whatever.
I’ll never understand that, my mom does it too, she won’t just buy people stuff off thier registries. She get’s them other stuff completely. WHY?? They gave you a list of things they actually want why get them something else?
I know it’s not what really matters, and it’s the thought that counts and all that. But..we do need some stuff…and it’s on the registry.. lol
Anyone else having a similar issue?
Post # 3
When exactly is your shower? A lot of people wait until the last minute to buy gifts. Cheer up, they could still be buying off your registry! Another option is that they’re finding your exact registry items for cheaper elsewhere – so stay aware of this, and make sure to remove them from your registry after the shower so you don’t get duplicates.
Post # 4
@futuremrsfitz18: true true, a very good point and being rather thrifty myself i’d be pleased by that lol
Post # 5
People will buy things the day of your shower. I’d wait until after it to vent 🙂
Post # 6
People like to procrastinate. People also like to buy gift cards.
Don’t worry about it until after the shower (and the wedding). Most people tend to stick to the registry.
Post # 7
yeah seconding the fact that people wait until last minute to buy…. don’t fret about it now.
Post # 8
LOL thanks I am feeling better already, I guess that’s true. I’m so opposite, I have gotten my friends gifts asap. I get too excited and like to shop lol
Post # 9
I wouldn’t worry too much if I were you. My best friend’s shower is tomorrow, and while I went shopping weeks ago, in the past 48 hours I have gotten a text message from a mutual friend asking where she is registered (yesterday), and a phone call from another friend (literally minutes ago) asking for advice about the registry. People will buy.
Post # 10
As hard as it is, try to remember that people are giving you gifts and since they’re gifts, the giver is free to buy whatever they want. Yeah, we all put stuff we actually want on our registry, but some folks will always buy something that’s not on a registry. They think it’s more personal that way, or they enjoy the act of shopping for someone, and find it rather impersonal to spend 3 minutes online. Or they like to take their time when they’re spending money and feel bad when $100 is gone and it only took 4 clicks to spend it. At the end of the day, you can’t control what people will give you and, to me, it’s like the weather: I really can’t control it, so I might as well accept it as gracefully as I can.
Post # 11
@fishbone: i get all that…it’s not like i’m going to shove it back in anyone’s face lol.
but it will get returned, unless i really like it.
we’re both minimalists and don’t like anything excess in our house, it makes for clutter. so if we don’t need it. it’s going back =/
Post # 12
@ames12708: Well, I’ve found that some people wait until the last minute to buy gifts–your wedding is two months away and for a lot of people, it’s just not on the radar-screen. We saw a lot of gifts disappear off the registry in the two weeks before. Some people also like to purchase something off-registry for showers (lingerie?). Also, people will also see what’s on your registry and try to find it cheaper from another source (my mother does this).
And my Mother-In-Law is one of those women who never purchases off the registry–she deems it a supreme breach of etiquette for a couple to direct and request what people should give them, but she also likes for the gift to represent her relationship to the couple and she wants it also to represent something of herself as the giver. So she gives heart-shaped paperweights from Tiffany’s. And I know, that’s totally NOT what I’d want, but she’s from a different generation and even though that’s not our custom today, I do understand her reasons.
Hang in there.
Post # 13
Good luck with this.
I had two registries. BBB and Target and invited 150 guests to our wedding.
At BBB we registered for 159 things and recieved 13.
At Target we registered for 65 things and recieved 2.
I didn’t even want to register but SIL insisted.
Post # 14
I totally understand this. I’m not a gift grabby person, but practicially nothing was bought off our registry either which kind of stinks. We got tons of gifts, though I can only return some, due to not knowing where all of it was purchased =( Though all the random walmart things like chip clips, pot holder, dishtowels that are the wrong color are deffinately being returned. I don’t see any problem with returning something you don’t need and have no use for, for something you can use and would like more. And hopefully you end up with some stuff off your registry. We got about 10ish items on the registry, 25 not and no cash, so you never know what you’ll get.
Post # 15
Don’t despair. A lot of people buy last minute. Or they may be like me.
I’m pressed for space and am invited to a number of showers as high wedding season is approaching. So to conserve room but get the couples what they’d like, I’ve gotten a gift card for each couple to one of the places that they’ve registered to cover anything they don’t get or that they think of later.
Post # 16
Nothing was really checked off my registry the week before. However, I got nothing off registry. People just procrastinated or bought me GCs.
That said, a gift is a gift, and, if it’s something you didn’t ask for, oh well.