Post # 1
I’m so frustrated right now. FI and I are both FT students, and he’s on a scholarship that he has to reapply for each quarter. Today we found out his scholarship won’t be renewed for Winter and he’s lost his financial aid.
I’m torn between shock and a tiny step above crushed. Our wedding is supposed to be on July 13th, but if he can’t find a way to get his financial aid reinstated we’ll have to postpone because we’ll be paying out of pocket (out of our wedding fund) for his school. He has one more avenue he can pursue for funding, but the chances are slim that will work out. Regardless, we are making a decision by the 1st.
We wouldn’t lose any deposits or anything, which would be a blessing. There’s a tiny, tiny little part of me that realizes postponing because of unexpected financial issues is okay, and not the end of the world. But…I’m still sad. *sigh*
Post # 3
It is totally understandable to be sad about that! I’m sorry, and I’ll be crossing my fingers for you guys that this last avenue for the funds works out.
Post # 4
This is sad but you guys will come through it! Really try to feel your emotions and see what’s the most upsetting part: is it having to wait a little longer to get married? Do a tiny courthouse wedding and host the huge party later! Is it not having the huge party now? That’s understandable, just know that it will wait for you…I’m sure your friends and family will still be down to party in a year or two! Either way, this is not a problem, just another bump in the road that’s slightly changing your course. Don’t worry, you’ll still get where you’re going 🙂
Post # 5
Thanks, ladies. I appreciate your words. It’s frustrating to hit another bump in the road (we’ve been together 8 years, and the first 4 of those were an LDR). I’ve come to terms that we’ll most likely have to postpone the wedding (it wouldn’t be all that long, only about 6 months) but I’m unhappy with some of the decisions FI is making with trying to make up for the loss of aid. We’ve got a difficult conversation coming up– he thinks that he should take out a short-term loan for this quarter and by some miracle (don’t ask me how) he’ll be able to figure everything else out by next quarter. Maybe magic elves will put it all together while we’re sleeping.
I’m sorry. He’s a good man, really. But he’s also stubborn and sometimes makes illogical decisions because he seem to accept that the plan for our future sometimes has to evolve. *sigh* I’m really not looking forward to our conversation this weekend.
Post # 6
@Sugar_and_Spice: Please know you’re not alone! I’m sorry to hear about financial problems. Do you think you could borrow money from relatives? Also if you’re relgious, why not get married in your church, synagogue, etc in the morning and have a short and sweet brunch in the church hall after? If you go to costco, walmart, etc buying food for 200 people should be affordable and i’m sure the church would waive any rental fees. Also why not get married civilly now and have the big wedding later on? Good luck! 🙂 Stay positive! You’re with the love of your life 🙂
Post # 7
OH NO!!! I’m so bummed for you. I know it must be tough BUT kudos to you for deciding to postpone rather than go into a bunch of debt to pull both off!
I’ll be crossing my finger and toes that the other form of funding comes through!
Post # 8
We are having our wedding in Puerto Rico as well, we are doing it really inexpensively! Is there anything you can simplify to make the wedding more affordable without stressing you out? Sorry for your troubles. 🙁
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Just stay engaged for a while and save more money for your dream wedding (if that’s where you want to spend your money)! No big deal!
Post # 10
Can you get student loans, just for this semester?