Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2012 - Hollins House at Pasatiempo, Santa Cruz CA
My soon-to-be fiance and I met online (match!) and while some of our friends and family know about it, there are others like my coworkers and a few other friends just think we met through friends.
We’re planning to get married next summer…and I’m wondering if I should let people know that we actually met online, or avoid the situation all together! I figure people will talk about it during our wedding or rehearsal dinners…so maybe it’s good to just get it out in the open?
Also, what do you think about incorporating the fact we met online during the wedding? any ideas?
Post # 3
I don’t see the big deal as to letting people know how you met or not. It is becoming more and more common to meet online. Fiance and I met online.
Post # 4
lots of people meet online so I don’t think there is anything wrong with telling people. It’s up to you whether or not you feel comfortable doing so. Nothing to be embarassed about, its very common in the digital age! 🙂
Post # 5
I don’ think you have anything to worry about. If you feel awkward about it- get it out there. Find a way to feel comfortable with it yourself, and then let people know.
But then you are thinking of incorporating it into the wedding?
Anyhow, don’t worry about it. I don’t think you have anything to think twice about- people of all ages have met online and it has been happening long enough that people don’t really think it is out of the ordinary anymore.
Post # 6
Asking how a couple met is a very common question! My brother met his wife online (they just celebrated their 14 year wedding anniversary yesterday) and it was taboo then (15+ years ago). Now, happens all the time and I’d be surprised if anyone thought it was out of the ordinary.
I don’t think you need to ‘announce it’ – but just answer the question when asked. No need for it to be more than a bit of information curious people ask in conversation.
Post # 7
I agree with pp’s… more and more people meet online; it’s more commonplace than meeting anywhere else, I’d guess. If older people have questions, just explain it’s like a blind date!
Post # 8
I say if ppl ask you how you met then go ahead and tell them. There really isnt much of a stigma anymore so tell them the story like any other romantic “how did you meet stories”. But don’t feel the need to offer it up out of nowhere like some kind of confession.
Post # 9
Did you actually say that you met through friends or have they just assumed? If you told a false story in the beginning, now is the time to clear it up, before the wedding! That way people won’t feel deceived. If you clear it up now they will be understanding about why you didn’t tell the full story straight up.
If they just assumed then let it just come out naturally on the wedding day. 🙂
Post # 10
We met online.. world of warcraft, strangely enough. I was pretty embaressed by it especially because most of my friends didn’t know I played WOW. I also didn’t wany anyone to judge me/him/our relationship so I casually tossed it out there that we met through friends whenever it came up.
We have been together for three years now so I’ve gotten over a lot of my inital feelings. I started to feel guilty about lying to my friends for so long and I was worried that one day it would just come out and I would have to explain myself.. So one day at dinner I just out-right confessed. I was actually really suprised at the response I got.. apparently no one really believed my lie (apparently lying/acting is not a strong point of mine!) and my friends actually thought it was kind of “cute” 🙂
If I were you, I would just leave it alone.. it’s really not important. But if you have told any fibs, I would come clean otherwise it will start to stress you it:)
Post # 11
I wouldn’t worry about it. If people ask, tell them. If not, no biggie.
Fiance and I met on Chemistry – we were matched Aug 19… we won’t even know each other a year on our wedding day 🙂
Some people know how we met, others – whatever. If they ask, I share.
Post # 12
I met my Fiance online and I know two other couples that met online that are now married! Tons of people met online these days so I wouldn’t worry about it at all!
Post # 13
Anytime I’m asked how I met my man, I let a smug little smirk cross my face and say, “online…” I say it like I’ve discovered some little hole-in-the-wall boyfriend shop where you find amazing buys for next to nothing. I say it like I’m a genius for ever having thought of it.
If you don’t act like it’s weird, people very likely won’t think it’s weird. And if people DO think it’s weird, just point out how brilliant you are for skipping a zillion awkward first dates by prescreening.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t come out and tell people unless they asked. I mean who goes around telling people where they met anyways? Let it come up naturally.
Post # 15
I am in a similar situation and Fiance and I tell our families we met at an event. We actually met through AIM (back when that was popular, lol) and had to lie to our parents so that we could go out on a date (after months of talking on the phone). It’s awkward to tell them, so we just haven’t. I don’t feel like they need to know. We love each other and that’s all that matters! With that said…I don’t think you need to tell them unless you want to.
Post # 16
My fiance does not like to tell people we met online. He tells people we met at Starbucks (where we met for our first date so not a total lie). He just doesn’t like to admit we met online dating. I don’t like to lie so I do tell people where we met. My family knows and so do my friends. But at this point, I don’t think it matters anymore.