(Closed) We NEED a 2nd Reception… but I have no idea what to do for it?!

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We are doing the same thing. We live on 1 side of the u.s. where his family is on the other. His grandma made a big stink about it being here and she’s EXTREMELY upset that she’s not physically able to make the wedding. So we’re doing a vow renewal for his friends/family that are not physically/financially able to make it here. I’m just wearing my bolero from dress, black blouse, and ivory pants. Then we’re just doing a nice dinner at a restaraunt afterwards. It doesn’t have to be anything over the top if you’ve already done over the top. do what fits you, your needs, and feels right.

Post # 4
46240 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@KimmySumShuga:  Welcome back! And congratulations Mrs______.

Are you going to post a recap?

Post # 5
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We got married in CA, and had a second party in Ireland, DH’s home country. His parents did most of the planning, but we paid for it. We bought out a local pub in his hometown, hired a traditional Irish band, and brought in food. I wore an off-white dress, Darling Husband just wore a nice shirt and pants. I brought our iPad and made a slideshow of the wedding pictures we had gotten from guests and 4 teasers we had form our pro photographer. There are lots of free/cheap slideshow apps you can download. It was great for those guests that couldn’t make it to the US.

I printed invitations from weddingchicks.com and sent them over a few weeks before the party. His sister surprised us with a cake that we cut, but his aunts had already made tons of desserts, which was very nice.

Technically, it wasn’t a second reception, more like a party. It was more to plan and extra work, but everyone that attended had a great time and still felt like they could be a part of our celebration. We worked the party into our honeymoon, so it was about 2 weeks after our actual wedding day.

Good luck! 

Post # 6
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@KimmySumShuga:  We had our wedding where we live now, and are having a reception in our hometowns. (It’s this Saturday, but I’ll tell you what we have planned). 

We rented the event space of a local brewery from 2-6 in the afternoon. It is open-house style so people can come and go as they want/need to. 

We are providing appetizers and wedding cake. There is also an open bar during that time (beer, wine, and rail liquor). We got a small tiered wedding cake and sheet cakes to serve right away. We will do a “cake cutting” about halfway through (or when the sheet cake runs out). 

We have cocktail tables and full tables with chairs set up with casual fall centerpieces. We are also using some decorations from the wedding, but not a lot. Darling Husband made an ipod playlist we will put on shuffle – upbeat music, but there probably won’t be any dancing.

We rented a photobooth that will be available the whole time. 

We have two computers that will show slideshows of the wedding pictures. 

I am wearing my wedding dress again (it is too formal for the party we are having, but everyone wants to see it and it’s an excuse to wear it again). Darling Husband is wearing his three-peice suit, but will probably take off the jacket. 

We hired a photographer, but a cheaper one than we hired for the wedding (and for only four hours). 

I made extra favors (beer bread mix) for this party as well. 

Hope this helps! 

Post # 7
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You already invited all these people to your wedding and they didn’t or couldn’t come. You say they sent cards and/or gifts.  Your husband isn’t into it.

I think you’ve answered your own question – don’t have another reception.  It will look gift grabby.  Also, no one cares as much about your own wedding as you do.  I don’t mean to be harsh, but no one is going to care if you don’t do a second wedding reception for them.

Post # 10
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We actually nixed the idea of a second reception with DH’s friend’s and family who couldn’t make the trip from the UK (Midlands). It was turning into too much work, stress and money. Next time we visit (date tbd) we’re going to get a few rooms at the Premier Inn in his hometown’s city center, treat his parents and a few select relatives/friends to their rooms, tell anyone else they’re welcome to join us, and do a casual dinner within a couple blocks of the hotel, and drinks after. Depending on the size of the group, we may treat to dinner.

We know that sometimes people truly want to be there and can’t, like his cousin who was starting her first day as a teacher the day after the wedding, or his BIL who had unexpected health issues. We also understand the trip is expensive. But we not have the energy or money to throw such an elaborate celebration to make it up to everyone who couldn’t come. I’m perfectly happy to make dinner reservations though!

Post # 11
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If it were me I’d do something totally different.  So it didn’t feel like trying to pull off the same event twice.  Maybe the pub or a fancy dinner would be appropriate for a 2nd reception?  Even a family hosted dinner?..well 80 ppl is a lot!

Post # 12
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We’re having 2 additional receptions to our destination wedding. I know, it’s crazy! He’s from the midwest and while I’m from CA. We both live here in CA so we also have a lot of mutual friends here and didn’t want to leave them out!

I absolutely think that is can be more “casual” in a pub or restaurant. 

Wedding: Small, intimate, rustic, etc.

CA: HUGE, traditional Chinese wedding banquet with DJ (friend), slideshow (from wedding), photobooth.

Midwest: Casual, rented venue (has concerts normally) with hors d’oeuvres, more like a cocktail party. Probably just an Ipod with a few tables and a slideshow. 

We’re not hiring a photographer for the additional receptions. Instead, we’re going to have people hashtag photos on Instagram or use Wedding Snap for more intimate, fun photos (that are cheap!)

I’ll be wearing my wedding dress to all of them as I want to get the most wear out of it! Also, it will let guests who didn’t come to the wedding, at least feel the vibe. My guy will wear his suit as well. 

We’re making no mention of gifts. They are not obligated to give one but we know people are going to want to anyway. We’ll be directing people to our website, which has the info if they’re so inclined but really, no pressure.

We’ll continue some parts of the wedding. For example: instead of a guestbook, we’re having guests write on postcards and put them into an old fashioned suitcase. We’ll take the suitcase with us to each party. 

It’s overwhelming at first but once you get a few details ironed out, it’ll be great! Just like the wedding 🙂

Post # 13
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

OP do keep in mind that the traditional British wedding and reception is a 12+ hour affair; if you host anything with the words wedding or marriage in the event title, some will expect that. I’d drop as many of the traditional wedding things as possible: nix the cake, bouquet, gown, “artifacts”, first dance, all that stuff. Have a cocktail party if you must throw a party at all. As PP mention, no one is going to feel slighted if you don’t throw any party. No one is as interested in your wedding as you are!

Post # 14
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@KimmySumShuga:  you will be getting pm in about 2 mins 🙂

Post # 15
1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Same here. We are having a small ceremony in Minnesota bcs FH’s parents can’t travel. Tagging for later.

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