Post # 1
To make a long, annoying story short…my fiance’s parents are planning to pay for (or help with?) our honeymoon. We truly are happy for this, but we need numbers. They want us to send them some of our ideas. Sounds great, but I don’t want to send them ‘a month in Europe’ when they were thinking ‘a night up the road’. Sounds extreme, but I’m worried that this may be the case.
When planning a honeymoon, the first thing we need to know is the budget. I don’t want us to get set on something beyond our means. I guess this is mostly a vent, but any advice from similar situations would be appreciated!
Post # 3
Have you and your fiance discussed what you want to do? I would come up with a few options and price it out. I think it is fair to discuss budget with his parents. We are doing an all inclusive couples only resort in Mexico.. about an hour and a half south of Cancun. We will be there for a week, all food and drinks (including alcohol) will be covered at the resort. We are spending about $3000 which covers our flights and transportation, as well.
Post # 4
I think you can either ask them how much they were thinking of contributing up front, and let them know it would be helpful when doing your research, or pricce out a few different options that you would enjoy but that are all at significantly different price points. Good luck in your planning!
Post # 5
We are going to the Bahamas for a week in March. We’re renting a studio, not staying in a resort, and its on one of the smaller islands. Transportation and the studio are about 1500.
What makes you think the FIL’s are thinking ‘a night up the road’?
Post # 6
@Miss Beach: We’ve discussed what we’d like to do. We would love to leave the US. However, we realize that we won’t be able to do anything as extravagant as Europe. We’ve actually recently looked into some resorts in Mexico. May I ask where you are planning to go?
@ktbrady: We’ve asked. They haven’t given us an amount yet. I hadn’t thought about presenting different ranges. Thanks.
@arclee: That is part of the “long, annoying story” I referenced. It is just our history with them. My fiance hasn’t always been treated the best by them. If there ever was a such thing as middle-child syndrome, then it definitely exists with my fiance. There has been a lot of beating around the bush with them about the honeymoon. We just don’t want to be rude or come across as expecting/demanding.
Post # 7
This comes up a lot! And what we frequently find is that parents are thinking of something in line of what they may have spent on their honeymoon 20 or so years ago.
A good average is about $5000 total for an adult only, all inclusive, 4 to 5 star property with air, transfers and insurance for 7 nights. Sure you could spend a little less, or a little more. But that’s about average. Of course there’s a million things that can impact pricing-air, room category, ect. Something to the South Pacific, like Fiji or Tahiti, could easily run you $10,000 dependent upon how many islands you visit, and the type of hotel.
We had a couple last year that the parents of the groom offered to pay for the honeymoon. They spent $2000 on a 14 day trip to Hawaii for their honeymoon, but that was 30 years ago! So if his parents aren’t frequent travelers, they may not have an idea of what things cost.
Post # 8
Keep in mind that travel costs depend a lot on the level of luxury you’re expecting. A budget holiday in Europe can cost the same as an all inclusive resort in Mexico.
We’re about to go on a trip to Europe that’s half vacation and half family visit. For our flights, we’re paying $1850 for two from the west coast to Germany, over the holidays no less. Five hotel nights in expensive cities are cosing us $520, at four-star properties.
In total be spending about $2600 total in flights, hotels and trains between five cities. Of course, we’re saving a lot by staying with friends and relatives in some places, but it is possible to find a nice hotel around $100 per night.
We’re budgeting 30Euro per day for food (possible, if you eat where the locals do), plus around $600 for seeing the sights. Our twenty day trip should come out around 4K. We decided to splurge on attractions and settle for ok accommodations and budget food. It’s not for everyone, but perfect for us.
The biggest hurdle was the amount of research, I probably put around 40 hours into it, and I’m already pretty familiar with the countries we are visiting.
Post # 9
I’d say the average honeymoon ends up between $4000-6000. We stayed in the US, going to 3 places in California and our total was right around $4K. In June you might be able to find some good airfare prices for the Caribbean since it’s hot and borderline hurricane season, so that could help you out. But I’d aim for that price range and try to find something that fits it (which I’m sure you can do, just maybe not with Europe!).
Post # 10
I would just send them 3 choices in varying price ranges. Or you could just send them resorts or hotels and then maybe they will give you a budget and you can see how long you can go for.
Post # 11
Thanks, bees. Those are all good ideas. I hope that we can get something figured out soon that we can be excited about!