Post # 1
And I’m starting to get pissed off.
We’ve had so twice since our wedding on 13th July!! I try it on with him, he doesn’t even look and me and just complains and pushes me off. We only have sex very late at night, he’s either woken me up, or he comes upstairs and e do it, plain old vanilla!!
i really don’t think he finds me attractive. Starting my diet tomorrow, so hopefully los. Some weight.
but I always have my hair done, make up done, iv changed my whole style to something we both love, yet nothing!!! I try it on with him, he pulls away or changes the subject!! I’m scared he’s looking else where, probs not doing anything but just looking (porn ect) which wouldn’t bother me too much as I watch porn too, but at least don’t lie about it!
like take now, just been downstairs, hes sat on the sofa, I’m sat inbetween his legs lying in him, trying it on, he’s more interested in watching the tv.
Im sick of it 🙁 I’m 23 n he’s 30!
Post # 3
Have you tried talking to him?
“Hey, why haven’t we had sex? What’s wrong and how can we fix it?
Post # 4
He says he just doesn’t want it. We used to have good sex 🙁
Post # 5
maybe he’s just not in the mood?
Post # 6
@Mrsdickinson: ..ok…so…twice in two weeks, you just got married, a lot of women get the post wedding blues, maybe your guy has a little post-marriage malaise….take him out for a night on the town, go have some fun and get back to real life….cause nothings changed, you’re just married people now.
Post # 7
@Mrsdickinson: Is there something that could be bothering him or making him depressed (i.e. financial troubles, stress at work, etc)? I think your next option, if things don’t improve through communication, is counseling. Hopefully things will start to turn around for you two. Best of luck.
Post # 8
Iv done that, last weekend we did date night, went for a meal ect. Came home.. he went bed. Next day I got up made us breakfast in bed.. He decided to eat his downstairs.
Post # 9
Did you guys live together before marriage? How were things before as far as frequency (were you happy then or did he have excuses back then too?) was he ever the one to initiate or always you? Sometimes I think we think sex will improve w marriage but in reality it doesn’t (for most ) and without communicatOn can get worse
Post # 10
@Mrsdickinson: If this has anything to do with your weight (which you mentioned in your OP) why don’t you ask him about it? in fact, ask him about it anyway? you guys do not sound like you’re on the same page about a lot of things.
Post # 11
@Mrsdickinson: I think he needs to give you a better answer than, “I just don’t want to.” That’s not acceptable and won’t allow the two of you to fix the problem together.
Post # 12
Sounds like there is something else going on besides just sex…
Did anything else happen recently that might be causing this? Change of jobs? Move? Etc.?
You need to have a serious talk with him and get down to whatever the real root cause is.
Post # 13
@Mrsdickinson: I hear ya! We had that problem but after a serious of frustrated discussions we figured out that he’s physically and emotionally stressed at work, and he literally didn’t have the energy to have sex all the time anymore. Over the course of our relationship it went from at least 7 times a week down to only once or twice a month. It’s getting better now that we’re married though. Speak to him gently about it and he’ll come around.