We purchased the engagement ring and still not engaged…is that weird?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

you havent asked him/discussed it with him?

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

OMG mine was the same. I hear its VERY common. There was a poll on her a few weeks ago and most said once they had the ring that it was 6-12 months. Just hang in there. He will! This is the one and only thing that he truly has control over, don’t ruin it for him or get upset. Honestly, the more romantic, loving happy times that you can create between you might speed it up! 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

That is common. We had my ering for a few months and I would always try it on to. But I think he waited because I knew we had it and he still wanted me to be surprised when he proposed. Which i was And it was so sweet because he was still nervous. When he proposes it’s going to be a big day for him and for you. Maybe hes waiting for an anniversary or a concert or play or just a nice day he can take you on a picnic. you never know what he has instore for you. you should let him do it at his own pace. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

eh,I don’t think its too very common but I’m only one person. Lol

I would feel panicky and antsy also! Especially if it’s in plain site. You’ve already spoken with him but it seems like you’re going to have to keep waiting:/ sucks but that’s really it. Hang in there. Oh and stop trying it on and stop looking at it! Don’t put it on your finger again until its for its intended use! Lol

 

edit: so okay,maybe its a little common lol who knew!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  JerNCher.
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would freak out too!!! hang in there, the ring is coming.

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Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Not weird unless you call about 50% of the women on this site weird.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Mine was over 2 months from looking at rings to proposal… It doesn’t seem odd to me

Post # 11
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Helper bee

It’s very common, he will do it in his time. It sucks waiting, but this is his thing that he wants to do. Like my FI had told me when I was anxiously waiting, he had a plan and he wanted to do it his way I just had to let him. It stinks and is hard, but hang in there!

Post # 12
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Honey bee

Airycuh:  Oh you have some serious patience skills (though you are angsty). Hang in there, hopefully it happens soon for your sanity’s sake!

We looked at rings in February/March and then I didn’t really bring it up again because he wanted to surprise me and pick it out himself. He proposed in September of that year, but bought the ring about 5 days before the proposal. My guy is a last minute kind of person. So he decided on a date he wanted to propose and then bought the ring right before it.

Post # 14
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Honey bee

Airycuh:  sorry that was meant to be a compliment about patience! I think you are holding up well, I would be impatient as well.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

 

Airycuh:  Personally I do think it’s weird since you picked and bought the ring together and you know it’s just sitting there. To me it’s a bit ‘what’s the point?’  But then again, each to their own. I am all for surprises and wouldn’t have wanted to even know mine had my ring and was planning on proposing. 

My husband apparently had my ring in his possession for 3 months before he proposed (he got it made so he wasn’t 100% sure how long it would take) and he was waiting for us to go away. 

I say, if it bothers you, tell him how you feel and mention something. Or at least get him to hide it somewhere and not tell you where so there will be more excitement and not ‘finally’ when the time does come. Otherwise you’ll go out to dinner one night, or on a picnic and see that the ring is gone as you walk out the door and you’ll know that the proposal is coming. 

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