We Received an RSVP with Fake Names …

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

stop. count to ten. breathe.

was it in poor taste? mhm. is it absurd? mhm is it the end of the world? nope.

just put them in a random table. i doubt it’s actually a stranger. it has to be someone you know. how would a stranger get a hold of an rsvp?

Post # 4
8510 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe you could wait until after the RSVP deadline and just start contacting people you haven’t heard from.  Maybe one of those will be your mystery guests.  I’d just treat it as a non-response for now.

Post # 5
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

@Stace126:  Try to calm down for your own sake. Whoever did it was probably an invited guest who thought it was hilarious to use fake names, and most likely they fully intend on owning up to it soon.  If it was your mom, try to go easy on her and not freakout bridezilla style.  While it’s a bit insensitive given how stressed out and serious you are about your wedding, she probably meant no harm.  Chances are that when you calm down you may find it a tiny bit funny.  


Post # 6
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Stace126:  that stinks! Ok, logically it is someone you know playing a joke bc someone you know well is figuring they will see you right away and probably tell you it was them. Someone you don’t know well wouldn’t do that. And most likely it is an actually guest and not a invite lost in the mail. Casually ask your mom to see if it was her. Maybe she thought you might need a laugh? For future brides: number your response cards on the back! We had one that forgot to put their name but we knew who it was because we had numbered them. And if you number them any weirdo RSVPs will be found out immediately. I hope you figure out who it is! 

Post # 7
10906 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Did the postmark on the envelope provide any clues?

Post # 8
1258 posts
Bumble bee

Did anyone you invited move recently? Thought it’s definitely illegal to open someone else’s mail it’s quite possible someone did…or it’s a really bad practical joke. How many rsvps are you waiting to hear back from? 

Don’t lose your cool just yet…I’m sure you guys will figure it out. And if there are two extra mystery guests the day of, put them at a table at the very back of the room! 

Post # 9
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am sure one of your friends thought it would be funny.  Just wait till your RSVP deadline, and see who hasn’t responded.  It’ll be okay!


Also 300 people wow!!

Post # 10
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am going to say IT IS someone you know… trying… to be funny

Chances are good it may indeed be your Mom (if you think the writing looks like hers)

Don’t ream her out…


She was probably trying to inject a little humour into the stressful process of Wedding Planning

Sadly it was a joke (her’s or someone else’s) that fell flat.

I’m sorry

Promise 10 years from now, you’ll be laughing about this prank… it could very well be the biggest story to come out of your RSVPs

(( HUGS ))

PS… Another reason WHY it pays to write tiny numbers on the back or RSVP Cards… then you can tell WHO sent them in if someone doesn’t write their name on the frontside (or choose to write an alias one)


Post # 11
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Stace126:  Are you sure it wasn’t accidentally sent to or delivered to a wrong address and whoever opened it thought it would be funny? That was my first thought.

Post # 12
1634 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry but I think its hilarious. I know there may come a time when i have too much going on that it might not be too funny though. I’m sorry you’re so stressed and overwhelmed, but maybe it was meant to make you laugh and loosen up a little bit. Try to not take things so seriously or the next 2 months is going to be a complete nightmare! Hope things start getting easier for you. 

Post # 13
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014



Maybe with a little perspecitve you’ll find this hilarious too. 😉  and I would bet money that someone on your guest list moved, or it went into the wrong mail box, or something like that. Strangers getting their kicks and giggles.

Post # 14
2973 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

This is one of those times when one just does not take herself too seriously.  

Laugh it out, it’s funny. Be a sport. Hang in there. You’re in the homestretch. 


Post # 15
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It may be someone who got your guests’ mail (if your guest moved recently) and sent back the RSVP card as a joke.

Post # 16
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I personally would NOT start trying to find out who it was….you don’t have time for that…what I would do is:


Make the fake names placecards, and put them at the worst table possible.


So the real people would have no choice but sit there.  Even if it was your mom. (and YES, i would do this to my mother if she thought she was going to be “funny” like this).


Then we’ll see who’s laughing.

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