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posted 3 years ago in Vow Renewals
Post # 3
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@WifeandMom:  

 

Congratulations!

 

It is good that you are not expecting gifts. You can wear a long white dress if you want. It doesn’t have to be expensive; there is always the option of a white formal gown. 

 

I love your wedding theme. I don’t think a DJ or videographer would be necessary. For a small group, a playlist is fine. That is what we are doing. It all depends if you want to pay a DJ or not. I have a playlist ready in my computer. You can always just hire a photographer but if you want a video to record memories, go ahead and hire a professional. It is your day. 

 

My husband and I eloped when we got married in 2010. It caused a huge rift with my very traditional parents. We are renewing our vows next year at a beautiful old mansion. I will wear a big poufy wedding gown for my mother, as well as my aunts and best friends who never saw me get married.  My husband will wear a tux. My original wedding gown was a simple mermaid dress and I want this photo album to look very different from the first one. I will be ordering a custom made gown from Dressilyme. I am comfortable with it because of the reviews on WeddingBee. 

 

We are having 35 people at a long table. We will serve beer, wine and champagne with the gourmet food. We will also have a tiered anniversary cake for pictures and a lovely ceremony. I will be sending invitations and giving favors. My mother is referring to my vow renewal as our “wedding” because that is what it is to her; she was angry that she never saw her only daughter get married. 

 

You can use petals if you don’t want to use the same thing as the first time. They look very romantic. I will be using petals down the “aisle” and on the table. 

 

There are many Bees who are totally against vow renewals, especially those with wedding elements. However, as long as you and your guests are happy with your plans that is all that matters. 

 

Post # 4
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591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

How great that you and your  husband have decided to see it though and say I do all over again 🙂 weddings are great dont get me wrong they get a lot of following on here LOL !!! But vow renewals i think are so special its saying hey I still am so very much in love with you 🙂 we have faced the Good and Bad together and we are still standing together !!! I love your theme by the way I also am doing a renewal on are 7 year we have been though so much in are life together i wont go into details but we have lived are vows and know what for better or worse and sickiness and health really mean !!! We are very excited this time around and wanna share are Love and Happiness with are friends and family !!! i agree a lot of ppl on the Bee are down on vow renewals they see it as a redo but honestly newly weds dont understand just how much more those vows mean until you live though it all I mean no disrespect to new brides at all and i say yeah a wedding is a huge deal and is a day to celebrate 🙂 but we also have reason to celebrate !!! Its your day girlfriend you and your hubby so do whatever reflects you both and makes your heart happy !!! 

Post # 5
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@WifeandMom:  If the dj is in the budget, then why not? That’s one less thing to worry about. You could use some of the gig booking online services & select a budget that you want to stay in to see if any are in that price range. The first time you had bubbles, how about sparklers this time or confetti or rose petals for tossing. Would you use the video, watch it more than once or twice? If not, perhaps it’s not worth it and beautiful pictures will do just fine. Of course it can be a long white dress, if you want. Wear a long rainbow colored dress, if your heart desires. As far as etsy there are a lot of bees who’ve bought etsy dresses, search for & see if you find a reputable etsy dealer. You could do a 2fer dress that has a detachable train if you’re uncertain, best of both worlds. I hope you post pics, the vow renewal board rarely has any visual love. I hope it all works out wonderfully!!

Post # 7
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591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Tyme4AWedNN2014:  it just breaks my heart that there so much bad vibes from others around vow renewal ?? I dont get it with divorce rate what is in in US I say if ppl need to renew there vows to remind them why did it the first around let them …. It doesn’t hurt anyone ?? Now I can see how some might be upset if there doing a gift registery and planning a jack n Jill or bridal shower .. That I think is not ok but hey its not my day either n i dont know there reason behind that .. all I am saying is judge no person till we walk in there shoes !!! And if someone wants a vow renewal then be happy for them if dont agree then dont attend ?? 

Post # 8
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mrstattoo10816:  Agreed! I don’t understand the looking down noses & harsh opinions at someone celebrating happiness and love whether their celebration is in a small or big way. EACH and EVERY year that a couple of our day can make it together with their marriage in tact is definitely an accomplishment and a reason to celebrate if said couple so chooses.

Post # 9
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Tyme4AWedNN2014:  

I know some people, especially on this website and others, look down on vow renewals because they don’t see the point of them. I have learned to ignore them and be confident in my choice. 

However, we who have been through hard times or had awful weddings know what we have endured. Celebrating love will never be tacky or pointless. 

 

Post # 10
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think as long as you aren’t registering or treating it like an actual second wedding, more poer to you. I think it’s kind of sweet, actually.

Post # 11
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@PositiveThinking:  Yes ma’am, the outlooks of newly weds and two people with many years invested usually differs in many ways. It’s a good thing that you’re solid with your chosen path, make the most of it and please post pictures whenever your special day comes! 🙂

Post # 12
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Tyme4AWedNN2014:  

Thanks mama. I am scared that my vow renewal won’t go well, because I have never had a special occasion work well for me in the past. 

Post # 13
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@PositiveThinking:  I often think this way to, but I tell myself, “this is a dress up party” whenever I think of it that way I’m calmer. I’ve had a few special occasion fails myself, but I’m doing all of my planning early enough & hiring a day of coordinator. I think I’ve covered all of my bases at this point & there’s nothing else that I can do.

If you’ve never had the big all out wedding shebang, you have nothing to compare it to, right? It will likely be wonderful because it will be filled with people who love and support you. I booked a venue/changed it, I’m considering a different dress because my plans were totally different whenever I purchased the one that I have now. I don’t know if I’ll actually change that, but I always fall back on the fact that I have no other to compare it to so it will work either way.

I definitely get understand.

Post # 14
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591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

 

@Tyme4AWedNN2014:  

@Tyme4AWedNN2014:  you sound like me LOL i have changed venues twice already are wedding day was small 6 people attended including the pastor LOL day was total disaster my ring fell into the gazebo floor never to be seeN again ..unity candle fell over lighting table cloth on fire 🙂 and that is the short version !!!! I thought i wanted a big vow renewal do it all fancy but now i kinda just want a brunch with all are close friends and family … That will change though I need to figure out what I want and start planning pretty quick here!!! Good luck with planning and remember its not a redo its a new beginning 🙂 

Post # 15
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Tyme4AWedNN2014:  

I tried to cover my bases. It was my guests and my husband who ruined my wedding day. I don’t even speak to the few guests who were at my wedding because they have proved to be false friends. Also, the aftermath from my family was very bad. 

I do hope my vow renewal will be wonderful but I am not holding my breath. 

Everything will be different this time around. My husband feels terrible about his part in making our wedding day awful. That is why he is paying for this vow renewal. 

 

Post # 16
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mrstattoo10816:  Yikes!! It sounds like you deserve that new beginning. So, you NEVER found the ring??? I could totally picture the unity candle/fire thing happening to me, I AM CLUMSY. Lol, so I’m not even going there. ROFL. We had a mix of being broke, young, his unsupportive parents, military issues, college expenses, family drama, etc. Anyway, I’m glad that I finally get a chance to do this, we’ve been through a lot together & are in the best place in our marriage right now. Our first time around was the 2 of us at JOP, nothing special and to me IT SUCKED & was never what I wanted. I sort of freaked out and thought about doing a destination renewal for a little while, then a cruise ship, then a golf course(paid deposit & all) and now I’ve switched to a completely different city & chosen a military base. The golf course was in our small hometown and though convenient for relatives, it wasn’t wedding friendly because there weren’t enough vendors as I’m trying to plan in Georgia, but I currently live in Virgnina. In my new city, it’s going a lot better, I’ve narrowed down the venue, dj, bakery, photographer and doc. The only other major tasks that I have to complete is deciding on a menu & printing/mailing invitations.

Right now it’s smooth sailing & I’m feeling good. If only I could make a decision about the dress!

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