- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I am not newly engaged, but a bride again.
My husband and me we had an intimate wedding in 2008. A one in 2009 with friends and family. We had a wonderful time together, until about over a year ago. We hit a really rough path. And last year we seperated and signed divorce papers. But I never sent them off, because I was having second thoughts about the entire thing. So at the end of last year my husband and I found back together. We, our two kids and our friends and family are SO happy and thrilled about that.
We always said that we wanted to have a “vow renewal” after like 15 or 20 years at a beach again. Just the two of us with kids maybe. Well now, after all what happend (not going too much into deets – all I can say it that it was a rough time), we need new rings (my husband sold his and I lost part of mine before all of that because I lost so much weight) and I think buying them and just putting them one wouldn’t be so great. His parents are going to be here for a vacation and so we think, even though we haven’t been married for 15 years or so it’s a perfect time to say:
“We still do” and have a revival party (including burning the divorce papers).
It’s not going to be so big. Just about 45 people (including us). A cocktail hour and then just a simple but nice BBQ and a bonfire with S’mores in the evening. We don’t even wanna have presents, not to make anybody feel like we’re just doing that to get gifts again. If they wanna give something it would much rather be appreciated if it would be something personal, a dontation to a charity in our name or a cake or appetizer for the cocktail hour.
We wanna keep it simple, but still nice. It’s still kinda, besides the first “I do”, the most important one. I think or actually we know, after everything we have been to, we can stick through everything now. We know how much we miss each other, how much we appreciate each other even though it sucks sometimes and that the gras isn’t greener on the other side.
We want to have a country/vintage/rustic wedding theme. It’s just his kinda of thing too. Hayballs for the ceremony seating, burlap, lace. Mason jars (I am gonna use the ones we already have to save money) and I want to just have simple flowers and put them in the jars by myself. I also wanna make the cupcake wedding cake myself to not spend money on that either. And the location is just a really simple one, nothing fancy at all. 🙂
So what is appropriate to have at a vow renewal?
I want to have great pictures. But do we need a videographer again? (We honestly love the ones we already have).
And would you go with a short white dress or could it still be a long white dress (but nothing puffy) just a simple lace gown? I am really thinking about buying one on etsy, just to not spend that much money again on a dress. But I am a little scared to do so. What if it doesn’t look good?
Also – should we hire a DJ again? My friends said I could just create a playlist and hire someone cheap to play the songs from that list we wanna hear, but I am a not so sure about that. Thougths?
I already have a list together of all the songs for the ceremony:
- A thousand years (Christina Perri) – For the entrance
- Say a little prayer – Before exchaning rings and vows
- Come to me (Goo goo dolls) – After exchaning rings and vows
- Somewhere over the rainbow
- All you need is love – For the exit
And I can’t decide which one for the worhsip song:
- Forever reign
- Holy, holy, holy lord god almighty
- Jesus paid it all
We had bubbles at our last wedding (and we LOVED it), but I don’t want to do it again. Should we go with petals this time or do you have any other ideas?
Okay that is definitley enough text and questions for now. lol