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Wow. I can't believe they would tell you that before hand, and then totally change their tune after you went thru all that to get time off. I would be majorly pissed. I really don't know what I would do in your situation. FI and I went into some debt to go on our honeymoon, but plan on paying it off by the end of the year. We need a vacation and wanted to do what we wanted to do, so paying a few thousand was worth it to us
Yeah, we really don't know what to do now!! Did you just charge your honeymoon? We are trying so desperately to not charge anything, and we haven't had too as of yet. But dang!! I AM a little pissed!
ick, are we talking about at time share type deal or one of those places you go to and they give you a hard core real estate sell to get you to buy.... yikes
very disappointing for you... i think you should say thanks but no thanks and make your own plans... sometimes people should keep their mouths shut because of this result, i think it really sucks and im sorry you got your hopes up and now trashed. if i was your friends i would be really embarassed
@eloping - I just looked up the place on TripAdvisor, and you're right!! The reviews did mention that they try a hard sell while you're there! And that they take your car keys and you have to go get them and wait for them and while you do, they try to give you the timeshare talk!!
GAAAAAAAAH!!
There was also mention of bed bugs.
I feel like crying. Not just this, just stress.
So sorry. (Hugs.) It seemed like a generous offer. But it became more of a hinderance. It might be hard to know what happened there. Perhaps he offered without really discussing it with his wife, and it didn't fly. Perhaps something financially serious has come up since then. So while I totally understand being frustrated, perhaps try to give him the benefit of the doubt.
Are you still going? You could politely decline? Could you tell your bosses that you don't need the time? It sounds like it was a pain for them to let you go. So maybe they would welcome you backing out of it.
I think I would make up some story about how you can't afford to take the time off, and that your boss revoked his offer. I would act really apologetic and distraught, thank them generously for their offer, and tell them that their company at your wedding is more than enough of a gift.
I would NOT want to stay in anything timeshare affiliated-- I've sat through those presentations before and they are horrible!
omg - if your friends are "giving" you a trip to a timeshare place that doesnt cost them a cent... i would SO call them out on that and ask them to their face if thats what it is
seriously, i would grab a sleeping bag and head off somewhere for your week away - there has to be an affordable option for you so you can enjoy your time together
whoa! this is not such a nice situation. was this honestly what they had in mind the whole time? whoa.... i'd honestly just tell them, "wow, you guys, it's amazing that you've offered this, but it won't work for us, after all, for a few reasons." mention the drive, mention the fact that you can't afford to eat out, mention the time-share presentation which you won't "make you feel comfortable" on your honeymoon. ask for their "understanding." (ha!) and leave it at that. DON'T GO.
honestly? a nice camping trip sounds waaaaaaaay better than honeymooning in the middle of some awful sales pitch.
Yeah we financed it, but we get 0% apr for 6 months and we've already paid off 1/4 of it with 5 months left. So we should be able to pay it off within the 6 months, so we won't pay any interest.
If you have credit cards, see what kind of 0% offers they have right now. Or if you have ok credit, open another CC to get the 0% intro APR. I know most people don't advice that, but if you can get a vacay with no interest, i say its a win-win
I noticed you're in Atlanta, what about a drive to Savannah or even New Orleans, it's only about 5 hours away? There is also St. Francisville which is about two hours from Baton Rouge but has the quantest sweetest owners of B and Bs very romantic and secluded. You may not be able to afford an entire weekend, but you'd definitely be able to afford a few nights. I also think it's cheaper if you stay Monday through Thursday. Good luck! I can try to scout out deals and chat up the owners to see how much it is during that time frame.
I am thinking you could definitely go to Desert Plantation (Willia is a DOLL) or Rosemund Gardens (Caryn is a sweetie pie)
@MrsSl82be - Yeah normally I wouldn't charge but if I could get 0% interest, I might consider it. Plus, I could probably pay some of it off with wedding money.
@crebre - Great idea!!! I love Louisiana and Savannah!!
OOH don't forget, you're within driving distance of North Georgia! There are some BEAUTIFUL locations less than an hour and a half away--I went there just last week! Why not try somewhere near Helen, which is soooo cute, or the Pisgah Inn I think on the Blue Ridge Parkway? Leaves are gonna be gorgeous in a month! :D
good idea about zero interest with the bank - im always getting letters telling me that for a single transaction of $500 or more i will get zero interest... they obviously miss me paying all those fees i use to pay on my $30K cc bill (which is now gone thank gods!)
We are renting from Fireside Chalet & Cabin Rentals-they have great deals and if you are looking for midweek-it may be exactly what you are looking for. It will be peak leaf season, but you may be able to find a last minute deal. They also have specials like stay 3 nights, get the 4th night free. There are lots of cabin rental companies in the Smokies so you could find something you like-there is also VRBO (Vacation Rental By Owner). There are some cute honeymoon studio cabins on the Fireside site-we went up to a full size cabin since we're going to be there for a full week. Just an idea! (we also didn't want to do the touristy thing, so we requested a secluded location and are way up on Bluff Mountain)
I would most definitely find a way to politely decline and look for another option.
Bellenga has suggested betterbidding.com and biddingfortravel.com on other threads and I have been looking at these sites. I'm amazed at the deals you can get. They teach you about bidding on priceline and keep a list of hotels you'll get whebidding for certain areas. Take a look at options within driving distance for you.
Thanks for the suggestions, all!! :) I grew up in Knoxville, so going to the mountains just feels like I'm visiting, but I do admit that i LOVE this time of year up there! A fire in a cabin with crisp air outside sounds awesome!
I will definitely check out those sites, arizona. Thanks!
Yay laylabelle that's what I'm doing this weekend! It was the first thing I thought of when I read your post.
Good luck with this whole deal. And seriously, what kinds of friends are those?!!?
Yeah...FI and I are totally looking forward to long days enjoying the mountain air, snuggly nights in front of the fire, reading, playing some games (we are total Phase 10 and Uno addicts! Yeah, we're dorks!) "quality time" in the hot tub on the deck with a glass of wine or a cold beer...I can't wait!!!!
Can you imagine a whole week with nowhere to be, nothing you have to do?? No school, no work, no wedding planning - I won't know what to DO with myself!!!!!! :)
AND I CAN'T WAIT!!!
I may kill my FI.
Seriously, I could kill him right now.
He TOLD them the truth and now they're hurt!!
WTH was he thinking?!?!
what do they have to be hurt about? they are dictating where you can go, the type of place you can stay and neither works well with you or your budget so i dont see why they should feel hurt
men.... sorry but really, they dont think sometimes do they - dont stress about it, with you telling him telling them stuff happens
To me it sounds like they were going to a timeshare thing and they get "bonus points" if they bring another couple. So you were the other couple. That certainly isn't the anywhere/any price they first mentioned. They should only be hurt if they told you up front what it was, you said yes, then you said no. I would try to go one of the places the bees suggested, and just be honest with your friends. good luck!
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Okay so the FI and I are strapped for cash after planning and paying for this wedding ourselves. So due to that and his work schedule, we planned to just save up over the holidays and take our honeymoon sometime after the new year (we're getting married in November) or in spring.
Well, FI's best man and childhood friend tells us a few days ago that he and his wife want to gift us with a week's stay, anywhere we want to go! SWEET! We can't afford a flight, so it would have to be within driving distance, but that's no problem - a free week anywhere we want is awesome! They were just like, hurry and let us know if you can get the time off. We asked (somewhat delicately and shyly) what the priceline was. We were told that cost was not a concern, they just needed to know soon so they could book it in time.
So we both had to go back and grovel to our bosses and change our time off (from the week before to the week after) plus I had to add two days to my time off to prepare for the wedding the week of, which means I now need 7 days off instead of 5. After about an hour of negotiations, my boss grants it but because I used all of my vacation for surgery, I am going to have to work OT and "bank" it for time off now. Okay, whatever... it's worth it. Fi does the same, and after his boss got a little irritated that he was now changing his plans, he too granted the change.
Soooooooooooooooooo, we let the couple know that we had both gotten the time off, and that we were searching for a place and would let them know, thanked them profusely and that we were going to stay within a low budget.
They then tell us that they actually had a discount plan with a certain place, and we'll have to stay there. Um, what??? And then we find out that it's an efficiency, basically a very small hotel room, with no way to cook. Well, the only way we could afford to go was to be in a condo with a kitchen, so we wouldn't have to eat out. We had already told them that when we asked - do you mind if it's a condo? And they said no. But now, we have to stay in a tiny (I mean, waaaay smaller than a normal hotel room) at a place we didn't want to go to (too far of a drive) and eat out all week when we can't afford to, and you wait until AFTER we've jumped through hoops quickly to get the time off?
I realize that you shouldn't look a gift horse in the mouth, and even if they're getting some kind of a deal, that a week anywhere isn't cheap. I guess my problem is - why all of the "anywhere is fine, at any price" talk and then as soon as we commit, the plan changes?
Am I missing something here?