"Wealthy" Engagement Ring size

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think you should get whatever ring you really want as long as you aren’t going into debt for it or using money you need for something else. Sounds like that isnt the case, so go with what you love. Someone will always judge no matter if your ring is giant or smaller,  diamonds or another stone,  the “right” style or not etc. So as long as you love it,  get it. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with the poster above! do whatever you want. Whomever really cares will be happy for you. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

You’ve earnt that money fair and square – if everything’s paid off and you want to spend it on a ring then go for it! 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

I would say to get whatever you really want as long as you can afford it. You might want to consider your social circle, work, family, etc if you think it will really stick out but at the end of the day you should get what you love. Also consider practicality and if you will be able to/want to wear such a large ring daily. If you do get an asscher, you can go quite a bit larger than other cuts because they face up small. 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I think you’re overthinking this, to be honest!

I will say one thing though… do you regularly wear large rings? Because I have a comparatively modest e-ring, but I also have a huge beast of a sapphire RHR. I find that, if I wear the sapphire ring continuously for a week or more, it gives me hard patches of skin on my hand, and that it rubs my fingers. It catches on things as well.

I would be careful…. wearing a statement necklace or bracelet is not like wearing a large ring, because of how you use your hands. If you want to wear your ring every day, I think you need to practise by wearing a cheap ring of equivalent size to the one you want for a while. You may find that you need a smaller ring in the long term.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I always use Beyonce as a reference when discussing “big” center stones, because she has an 18 ct flawless emerald cut (I believe its emerald cut…) and yet it doesn’t over power her finger or seem “too” flashy- which is what most ppl are worried about.  Also, its all in the attitude/personality of the wearer. Humility is such a great quality in general, and it has nothing to do with the size of your diamond. Some ppl will flash a $4,000 ring every chance they get, because it may be what defines them. Going bk to Beyonce (sorry)…I was watching an interview with her and she accidentally left her engagement ring on. She had been married for a while at this point, so everyone knew, and it definitely wasn’t a secret. The interviewer was gawking at her ring, and Beyonce was embarrassed because she said she normally removes it during most interviews… That just spoke volumes when I heard it.

So, in other words, wearing the ring (no matter the size of the stone or its price tag) and not letting the ring wear you is probably what matters the most. Happy ring shopping…we can’t wait to see what you picked out! 🙂

 

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I find halos trend, personally.  I do think they’re quite lovely, but feel that in a decade, I’ll think “that is SO 2010s”.  But, I think most rings do show their “date” unless it’s a very simple design, so that’s something you have to consider as well (I myself am not a solitaire kind of gal).

I wouldn’t feel guilty about chosing a large ring.  We also are much more well off than our families and I get that there is a certain amount of guilt that comes along with it, but I also feel like you can’t live your life around what other people may think or be hurt or offended by.  

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Rachel631:  I agree…there are certain “big” rings that I can’t wear everyday, because it gets in the way and becomes a hassle to deal with if I kept it on 24/7…you’re right something to think about as well. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@stuckinwonderland:  Its funny, because I remember saying to myself that I would never get a halo ring bc its just a trend that’ll fade away soon…until I looked at some old posts on different sites, and realized ppl were buying halos in 2005. So, now I’m like maybe its a long trend or its here to stay? I also agree that solitaires are called “classic” for a reason, bc they are timeless. Anyway my opinion of halos have def changed! 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My ring is around 30k..and it looks very modest…it is a little over 2ct excellent quality diamond..and a very simple setting…it doesn’t look flashy at all…So, don’t worry about it looking “too much”…

And…do whatever you want..who cares what other ppl think..

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

In terms of “wealthy” it’s really completely relative. I work with some waitresses with 1.5 carat diamonds and some CEOs that wear a plain gold band. My parents are wealthy and my mom got a half-carat oval diamond for her engagement ring. 

Get WHATEVER you want. I’m a halo girl all the way and will not change my mind just because they miight be considered “trendy”. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Get what you want. You guys worked hard for it and you deserve to not feel guilty about what you can afford.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

If big rings are your style and you can afford it, I say go for it.  Do what makes you happy and forget everyone that is going to judge.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

There is NOTHING wrong with getting a large ring if you can afford it! Honestly, I would only side-eye someone if they bragged about having a $40K ring but then said they were in debt and nearly homeless or couldn’t afford to eat.

DH and I are not well off right now. We live paycheck to paycheck, I work two jobs while studying full time, and DH’s job pays fuck-all. Because of this, my e-ring was second hand (paid $500 for it, valued at $1650). Even if we had paid the original price of $1600 people would probably think we’re cheap, but it’s what we can afford and there’s no freakin’ way I’d want DH to put us in crippling debt just for some bling. However, if we were in a better financial position, I’d be out there shopping for a 2ct beauty just like many of the Bees on here!

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