(Closed) Wearing a band when you aren't married yet?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 4
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4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If they ask to see your ring, perhaps you can show them a cell phone pic? I don’t think they are judging you for not having a ring, surely they understand that you can’t wear it to your program?

Personally I’d rather wait and save the wedding band for after the wedding, in my mind it just seems more appropriate and special if the first time you wear it is at the wedding. But that’s just me!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

I agree with the PP. It’s really special when your husband puts the wedding ring on your finger during your ceremony. Plus, you ARE engaged, so you know you’re not talking out your ass, and if people think you are then they’re the morons. But if you wear your WEDDING ring without being married, that could be seen as trying to pull something over on people (aka, talking out your ass) and in that situation, they would be right! That’s not what you’re going for, so I would either not worry about what other people think, or like kerensa says, show them a cellphone pic.

Post # 7
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4049 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@kerensa:  I agree with this. Whip out a cell phone pic if they want to see it! Otherwise, who cares what they think.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I say wear what u are comfortable with. If u wanna wear the band, go for it. If ur asking if I would? Probably not but I am not in your situation so I can see where you are coming from and the reason u would like to wear the band. To each his own:)

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

When I was engaged last year, I couldn’t wear my engagement ring to work, so my finger felt naked all the time!! I bought an inexpensive but meaningful infinity ring off etsy to wear on my ring finger as a placeholder. People at work would ask about it and it was easy enough to say “I wear this one since I can’t wear my pretty diamond ring” or whatever. It didn’t compete with my engagement ring, and it wasn’t a wedding band, but it was something that I could put on every morning when I couldn’t wear my ering. (I still can’t wear my ering to work, but now that I’m married I wear my band and save the placeholder for another finger or for when I’m doing something that I don’t want to ruin my rings)

My placeholder 

Post # 10
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wear a stainless steel band to work instead of my ering because my job would ruin it. It was like $7. People assume I’m married instead of engaged, but that doesn’t bother me. It would bother me more if people assumed I was single.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Peacockfeather:  It doesn’t stop everyone :/. I had one guy from another company we work with regularly hit on me continuously in front of a customer (so I couldn’t do anything to stop it other than be polite and try to redirect the conversation) even after he found out I was engaged and younger than his daughter. He also likes to make sexist jokes.

Post # 13
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501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

nothing can replace the engagement ring/wedding band IMO, so I think i’d prefer to wear nothing than have a ‘replacement’ ring. Who cares what people think, the main thing is that it is obviously amazing enough that you want to protect it and that should be enough to people 🙂

Post # 14
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1383 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wear the band if you want to, why not, it’s your finger after all. And who ever said an engagement ring has to look a certain way, or a wedding ring has to look a certain way? I get told my ering doesn’t look like an ering, even though it has small diamonds. But hey, even a plain band could be an engagement ring if you say it is! In fact, many cultures wear a plain band on one hand while engaged, and switch it over to the other hand when married.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If I couldn’t wear my ring, I would absolutely wear a lower profile band. But I would choose a sparkly “engagementy” band, something quite different from my future wedding ring. That way it would still be special and new when he puts the wedding band on your finger. 

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