Post # 1
I absolutely fell in love with my engagement ring (Tacori 2535) after I tried it on with a rose gold eternity band and a simple 1.5 mm white gold band. It looks amazing by itself, but is really magnificent as a part of a stack. I know I’ll be getting at least three bands to change the look of my stack day to day once married, but can I wear bands before that?
My FH is against the idea of me wearing my actual wedding band before the wedding in 2015, and I am okay with this. I do have a couple of Tiffany celebration rings that he has given me as gifts over the past 9 years, and they each symbolize a really special moment in our relationship. I was thinking of wearing these. I don’t care if strangers think we’re married, because we’re already in a common-law relationship and have been “practically married” for several years.
Yesterday, I put on my e-ring and one of my celebration bands. The e-ring was closest to my heart, and the band with on top of that. My guy said he was okay with that combo and thought it looked good. He said he was fine with me wearing it that way because the band is not closest to my palm/heart, which is the placement of a wedding band.
But now I’m torn! I need advice before I go resize my celebration bands to fit my ring finger. Will wearing other bands before the wedding make my wedding band less special? On our wedding day, we will have been dating consistently, never long distance, for 11 years. We live the life of a married couple already, and I want our wedding to mean more than simply a piece of paper. A wedding band would be that extra symbol, but dammit, my e-ring looks its best as a part of a stack!!!
What would you do bees?
Post # 3
@letigre: Of course it won’t: you’ll recieve your band in a very exciting, once-in-a-lifetime wedding setting 🙂 I do not think it will lose any of its novelty because you wore one of your other rings for awhile 🙂
Post # 4
As far as I’m concerned I think it’s fine to wear a band before marriage – although I am far from conventional even on a good day. Do you have pictures?
ETA: I think you’ll feel very special – no matter what you wear on your hand prior to the wedding. There is no feeling quite like it and it has nothing to do with a ring.
Post # 5
You can do whatever you like! I personally won’t be wearing any other bands with my e-ring until the wedding, but it’s absolutely personal preference! Happy stacking!
Post # 6
@letigre: I’ve been very tempted to wear my band too, but IMO, the band is the symbol nth at you are married, and if you aren’t married, you don’t wear it. For me, it’s just the symbolism of it, and I want to keep looking forward to putting it with my ering on the wedding day and not before.
Post # 7
I wear my band under my e-ring. It’s my promise ring so I feel like I have a right to wear it even though it will also be my wedding band. I do worry it will take away from the excitement of wearing them together after the wedding, but I decide to have it soldered together after the wedding. Here’s the set that I wear:
Post # 8
@letigre: Pics? If I were you I’d wait.
Post # 9
@TwoStatesBride: +1, this is exactly how I feel, but to each her own!
Post # 10
I would wait, both because the engagement ring is its own unique symbol, and two rings on that finger symbolize “married” to me.
Post # 11
Do whatever the heck you want. It’s not that serious either way!
Post # 13
A wedding band signifies marriage. Wearing the wedding band with your ring before the wedding makes absolutely no sense.
@letigre: Wearing a different band with it is fine, I think, as long as you and your FH are comfortable with it. I loove stacked rings and can’t wait to start stacking mine!
The only thing about resizing the Tiffany bands – Will you want to wear them after the wedding on another finger? You said that you were planning on buying other bands after the wedding.
Post # 14
supposedly it is bad luck to wear your wedding band before the wedding. But I guess I have bad luck now. I gave my FI a tungsten mangagement ring and bought myself a 2mm one as well. by itself the band looks like washer, but it has the matching engraving to my beloved. Plus he hates it and wants it to just me my “hand’s in the dirt” ring. He told me to keep wearing it over my e-ring to protect it. Plus the band I want for my wedding ring is unable to be engraved so I have a plan thin thin band with an engraving, my e-ring and what will be the wedding band, which I will wear after we get married.
I think mine only counts because it is plain and super thin.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
My E-ring came with bands already attached. It isn’t a traditional e-ring though but I loved it. Some people think I already wear the bands, or I’m already married. I just explain this is how I bought it and I’m leaving it as is when I get married.
Post # 16
I want to wear my E-ring by itself sometimes but now that we are married I can’t do that, it feels weird. I wish I would have cherished the time when I could just have it by itself. Now, of course, it looks great stacked but that feeling of a new ring all by itself is awesome. Wear how you like it 🙂 Just remember that you might miss the time of having the ring just by itself before the wedding.