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I have a friend who rocks her beautiful long dress to weddings that are "cocktail attire". She looks great and I wouldn't give her a second look!
What kind of attire did they indicate for the wedding? I think if it's semi-formal it might be OK (well, maybe not for the one where the bride gave you the death stare). If it's cocktail attire you might look overdressed.
I might ask her why the cold reaction, because I don't see anything wrong with wearing a long black dress to a non-black tie wedding if it doesn't look like a ballgown. ;)
Can you post pictures of the dress? That would be awesome!
I would aks her, too, about her problem with the dress. She might think it's too dressy, too casual, wrong color, it's her wedding color, or she might have felt like you should have put extra effort in choosing a dress (i.e. buy a new dress just for her wedding), or any other reasons. I am only guessing here. While I don't see any problems with the dress, but I also feel like she could have many problems with it for some reason that only you would know if you ask her.
Without seeing your dress/knowing your friend/knowing your friend's wedding, my first thought was a long gown is too dressy for a non black tie optional wedding. But that's just me and my first reaction based on the information you provided.
I think it's really hard to say without seeing the dress and knowing what the specified dress code is. Also, it would largely depend on how dressed up people get in your circle and area of the country.
Some people believe black is not suppose to be worn at a wedding, so maybe its not even the length. Black to some people means mourning and thats definitly not what any bride is going for when planning their big day!
Is it in Philly? I think long for semi-formal would be fine. Maybe even for cocktail attire. I think the further west or south you move the harder it is to pull off.
I'm trying to find a nice picture of the dress to post online. I'll have to crop out some other people. Thanks for the feedback. The wedding is downtown Chicago. I think I will wear it to one. I was just curious what others think or have done in the past.
It is definitely not a ball gown. Just a long black dress.
I think a long, black dress would be fine for a fall wedding in downtown Chicago.
I think this dress would be totally great to wear to the wedding. I mean, how could you go wrong in a classic, black Halston?!
I wear long dresses all the time to wedings. its totally fine provided it fits with the formality and season. HOWEVER - are her BMs wearing black long dresses? That might explain the cold look..
some people don't think black should be worn to a wedding -- maybe that's it?
Well, my bridesmaids wore short dreses, and i had a few people were casual long jersey dresses. They were casual and looked fine, but anything of a nicer material or more formal would have been out of place. Maybe she thinks you're trying to dress TOO nice, like show up her bridesmaids or draw attention to yourself? I can see how it *could* be out of place. Personally, weddings are not usually nice enough around her to command a long dress, so I would definitely not wear it. If she gave you a nasty look, don't wear it....just wear a cocktail dress b/c that probably fits with the scheme of the wedding better.
Yeah, I agree. If she gave you a nasty look, I'm not sure I'd push that issue. I think we could make a better assesment if we saw the dress! (Or one similar).
If the cold look really was in reaction to the dress - don't wear it! You have a chance to wear it to the other wedding, so don't push it. I think that having that much black involved (I assume the entire floor-length dress is black) may be part of the issue, I don't know.
I think it might be too formal. Even if its simple, a long black dress, especially with a flare, would probably be more of an attention getter than is appropriate for a wedding that isn't formal. I would go with a cocktail dress instead, and keep it simple. Her "cold look" should be reason enough for you to not wear it!
I wore a long summery dress to an afternoon outdoor wedding this year and everyone complimented me on it. I wouldn't wear an evening gown obviously, but if the dress fits the season, level of formality, I'm sure it will be fine.
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I thought I would put this out there to the hive-
I have two weddings coming up this month and I'm thinking about wearing this lovely black dress to one of the weddings that I wore to my friend's black-tie optional wedding earlier this year.
What do you think about wearing a long dress to a fall wedding? It isn't flashy at all. Pretty much an a-line dress with some suddle flair at the bottom. I mean, its a classic Halston. My husband LOVES me in it, and really wants me to wear it to both the weddings!
Anyway, my one friend who is getting married saw a picture of me in it and said how much she loved it, and I said " I might wear that again to your wedding!" and she sort of gave me a cold look. It caught me off guard, so I don't think I will wear it to hers.
So, what do you brides think?