Post # 1
So I’m having a fifties themed wedding. A lot of my guests have decided to dress in fifties attire too, which is great! that’s half the fun!
Well my grandmother was telling me that she ordered a new outfit to wear to my wedding. As she was rambling off everything that she had ordered she mentioned ordering a hat with a veil attached to the hat. I understand these were fashionable in the fifties, but I think it’s rude to wear to a wedding. I didn’t say anthing bc I didn’t want to sound like bridezilla. She knows my feelings on guests’ attired. I constantly say I hope no one dresses down to our wedding. But I honestly think that wearing a veil to a wedding is the same as wearing a white dress… Am I wrong? Am I making it too big of a deal? How would you feel??
Post # 3
Is it like, a small veil on a fascinator? Or like, a long bridal-type veil. They’re very different looks! Either way, I personally wouldn’t be comfortable with it, but…it’s grandma. haha.
Post # 4
I think that if you are going with a 50’s themed wedding then you have to accept that some of the hats will have veils.
Post # 5
I think she means more of a blusher than veil right? If so, I wouldn’t think it’s a huge deal, since odds are it won’t be white or bridal looking.
Post # 6
If it’s like what I am picturing then it looks nothing like a wedding veil that a bride would wear so I wouldn’t even think twice about her wearing that. I think it’s pretty cool that your grandma is getting in on the theme costume thing lol
Post # 7
I would look at it before freaking out.
It’s probably going to be more like this:
In either case, I wouldn’t cofuse who the bride is because grandma wore a kickass 50’s hat.
Post # 8
Well… I’ll be wearing a birdcage veil. So chances are it’ll look like mine. I just hope her’s isn’t white
Post # 9
Then speak to her or get over it.
Post # 10
She’s your grandma – considering I have two in another country who can’t make it (one had her tickets booked and had a heart attack she survived thankfully 3 weeks ago) I would let them wear their old wedding dresses if I thought for a second they could make it.
Honestly, you are lucky to have her there, let this go. NOONE will think she’s marrying your Fiance.
Post # 11
I assume that your grandmother is talking about the small netting style veil that was so popular in the 50s, like one of these: (which I find perfectly appropriate)
However, if she’s ordered something like this, you might want to ask her to tone it down a bit.
If you’re upset because you are planning to wear a hat with a small veil, like the first examples, try to realize that guests shouldn’t be wearing them in white, and you’ll still be the most beautiful woman in the room – brides always are.
Post # 12
The veiled hats from the 50s don’t look anything like bridal veils. You picked a theme that has veiled hats as part of it, and your grandmother is going with your theme. She’s not going to be confused for the bride. It’ll be okay.
Post # 13
I think its awesome she is dressing in theme. I don’t think anyone will confuse the two of you. But, if it really bugs you try speaking to her about it.
Post # 14
You’re making too big a deal out of this. I would bet money that you will not care one iota on your wedding day, and your gram will look wonderful. And, like the PPs have said, you picked the theme!
Post # 15
If you’re actually bothered about it have a chat with your gran. I doubt it’ll actually look like a bridal veil, even if you’re wearing a birdcage veil. I think it’s great that she’s joining in with the theme!
Post # 16
Sorry but I’m with the PPs. If this were a themeless wedding I would say it was kinda odd, but given a 50s theme I think a hat with a little veil is spot on! And since your grandma was probably around for the period she’s going to know that and is just embracing the theme. I’d be excited that people are going with your theme. Plus, she’s your grandma. Let her wear what she wants? Are your really, seriously, afraid anyone is going to mistake her for the bride or that she is going to steal your spotlight? Really?