Post # 1
Last night, during my dress crisis meltdown, my mom’s good friend called me. She told me I could have her wedding dress for my wedding, if I wanted. She sent me pictures, and the dress is gorgeous. It has a lot of lace and beading detail. All things I really love. The only problem is, the dress is a 1998 (that is when she got married). The only thing that bothers me, and really dates the dress, is the sleeves. You know, those big, puffy, 90s sleeves. But, being the angel that my mom’s friend is, she called me and told me (I didn’t even ask) that she doesn’t care what I do to the dress. She even suggested for me to remove those sleeves. So, basically, if I accept this gown, I have free reign to make any changes I want and I will only have to pay for alterations, even though this is a very expensive gown. I am so thankful to my mom’s friend, I nearly cried.
I am just wondering if any of you used a borrowed, older gown for your wedding? I would love to see pictures, if you did. Especially if you had the gown altered to make it appear more modern. I really just need some encouragement. I don’t want to walk down the aisle and have people thinking, “Eww, that dress is horrible!” I want to be breathtaking, of course.
Post # 3
I haven’t done this but I know lots of women have worn their mother’s dress and made changes to it to make it more modern. I know from your other post that your dress doesn’t fit, but is there any room in the budget at all for something else? Even $50-100? I’m thinking if you made a post on the classifieds with your desired style/budget/size, you might be able to find something. I’ve seen some great dresses super cheap on the classifieds. Also don’t forget about ebay- I wouldn’t go with any Chinese knockoff dresses, but I know I’ve seen pre-owned gowns from legitimate designers go at a very low price. I found a Demetrios classic A-line sample, still with tags at our Goodwill for $40! It’s really nice that your friends mom offered up her dress and at least you know you have an option. Keep in mind that if you are considering paying someone to do that many alterations, you might be better off putting that money toward a more current design you won’t have to alter so much or even at all if you’re lucky.
What size/style are you looking for? I am currently looking for an inexpensive gown to change into at my reception so I’ve been dress-hunting a lot lately. I can keep an eye out for you!
Post # 4
My Mom, in 1976, borrowed her cousins’ wedding dress, from the 1960s, because she couldn’t afford a dress. But, she had to deal with whatever the dress had to offer and give it back. It worked for her.
Post # 5
I think you should definitely ask to borrow it for a little while!
Seriously, you can try it on, spend some time with it..etc. You can take the dress somewhere that does alterations, and get a vision of its potential.
The way I’m looking at it, is that you have nothing to lose.
Post # 6
Honestly, if I’d had someone willing to loan me a dress, I’d have jumped at the chance. The dress is such a huge expense, and picking one out is a huge chore (starts out fun but turns sucktastic pretty fast). I’d have been thrilled to have an offer like this!
Post # 7
Do you have a pic we can see? If she’s going to let you do anything to the dress, I’m sure it can be altered to look more current. Lace and beading are pretty timeless for the most part, and if your taking the poofy sleeves off, I’m sure no one will be able to tell it’s a few decades old.
AND on the plus side- NO ONE else will have a dress like yours!!! Completely unique!
Post # 8
I altered an older dress and i loved it! I would do it!! It will be completely unique 🙂
Also wed love to see some pics 😉
Post # 10
My gma offered me her wedding dress to wear to prom (apparently it was yellow enough that it didn’t scream wedding dress to her anymore) and I seriously considered it. It was a gorgeous gown and if I hadn’t fallen in love with another dress I probably would have worn it for my wedding.
Post # 11
@Pinksapphire: Sounds like a great idea! A beautiful dress that you have the freedom to alter to suit you….for free?! I’d be jumping at that!!
Post # 12
I’d be all about that!
Unfortunately there does not exist a wedding gown in my family that would be for me. My aunt has a wedding gown that might fit me but it is SUPER poofy and definitely not to my taste, plus I don’t think she’d offer it up anyway.
Post # 13
This is the back view of the dress. I will post the front later, but I’ve got to remove the face of the bride, lol! If I wear this dress, I would have the big sleeves removed, but keep the lace there as straps. Also, this is the dress pre-alterations, so it looks really big on her (she’s short).
Post # 14
The dress looks gorgeous! Remove the sleeves, I think you’ll look stunning in it!
Post # 15
@Pinksapphire: OMG that has a lot of the same details that my mother’s dress has! (she got married in 87) If I had came close to fitting in her dress (I’m quite a bit taller) and if it was in slightly better condition I would have JUMPED on the opportunity to alter it! First on my list would have been to chop the sleeves and work on making the waist fit me like a glove! What is the height difference between the two of you? I had issues with the torso not being long enough on my Mom’s dress
Post # 16
I think that dress has amazing potential once the sleeves are removed. Go for it!