(Closed) Wearing Black to a Wedding

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Is it okay to wear a black dress to a wedding?
    Yes : (159 votes)
    92 %
    No : (13 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i think its perfectly fine! why not!? i wore a solid black dress with dark pink heels and a pink striped sweater to a wedding just a couple weeks ago 🙂

    Post # 4
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Oh my gosh that’s ridiculous. I bet that person doesn’t wear white after Labour Day too. It’s a colour, get over it! I just wouldn’t want someone to wear a white dress to my wedding, but I don’t care about black at all! My mom is wearing black for goodness sake! I’ve opted not to wear a red dress to a friend’s wedding, but that’s because I don’t want to stand out too much since most people wear black.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    i almost always wear solid black to weddings. in fact, my groom, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and mother will be all be entirely in black at my wedding. i think it’s extremely classy and honestly, i wear a lot of black in my daily life. i don’t know, maybe it’s an east coast and midwestern thing.

    Post # 6
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    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It’s an evening wedding.  I think black is very classic.  And with that pop of red from the clutch…I love it.  But as many of you already know, I am not a stickler for tradition.

    Post # 7
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    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think it’s fine — black is dressy! Don’t wear a black hat with a black veil on it, for goodness’ sake, or wear a black dress that is mostly seen at funerals or the Addam’s family (anyone?). I’ve worn black dresses (knee-length) to weddings, but always carry an accent purse or shoes, or wear colorful accessories to indicate this is a happy outfit. =)

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Well, very formal, very old school etiquette would support what the poster said. However, social norms change all the time, and as a blogger part of your ‘thing’ is to be up on that! These days, in my area at least, the little black dress is the absolute staple of weddings, kind of the super safe choice if you want to be conservative.

    Some of these weddings have been extremely posh as well, so I doubt it’s a matter of being “declasse” as she said. And really, who the heck says that?! Sounds like she just wanted an opportunity to come off as super ritzy. 

    Post # 9
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    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I recently wore a black cocktail dress with bright pink shoes to a wedding. Who the heck cares these days?

    Post # 10
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    350 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    Even if you think it’s appropriate to wear black, consider that the bride and probably about half of the older guests will see it as a negative. People will talk, and even if you think they’re just being petty and should get over themselves, is it really fair to have people talking about what you’re wearing and not the bride? 

    And are you SURE the bride won’t mind?  If you call and ask, of course she’s going to say it doesn’t matter even if it does matter to her.  That’s why there is etiquette for things like this:  no white, no black, and no red.  The above recommendation is all black with a red purse.  That’s two big no no’s in one. 

    Post # 11
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    636 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I voted ‘no’ but I really just meant no for me.  As outdated as others may see it, I have always been told you don’t wear white (or any variation), black, or red to a wedding.  I think the exception (for myself) for black or red would be for a black tie wedding.  I’m not offended at all if I see people in an appropiate dress of any color, but it gives me a moment’s pause…

    Post # 12
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    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    @CoffeeHound: I was good friends with the bride whose wedding I wore my black dress to. She said she didn’t mind at all, and thought it was really classy lookin’, especially for her evening wedding.

    Post # 14
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    Wannabee

    I attended a black tie wedding where the woman were instructed to wear black and only black, morbid thought at first, then the bride shows up wearing an amazing pearl pink gown, She wanted to be the centre of attention and she was.  I agree with circus peanut, a LBD is the go to dress for most woman nowadays.

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I think that’s silly. Black is just a color – it doesn’t represent anything! Who cares?!

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