Wearing black to a wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you think black is appropriate to wear to a wedding
    Yes, Absolutely : (186 votes)
    84 %
    NO : (15 votes)
    7 %
    Maybe, Explain Below : (20 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @lolita39:  I think that dress is gorgeous! Black is classic. I’m planning on having my bridesmaids wear little black dresses, and I’ve seen lots of other people do the same, so I really don’t think wearing black to a wedding is taboo anymore. At least not in my circle 🙂  I am from Vegas, though, so maybe you want to take my words with a grain of salt. LOL

    Post # 4
    746 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it’s fine. The little black dress has brought ‘black’ into main stream semi-formal attire. It’s not really a ‘mourning’ color anymore.

    Post # 5
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    To be honest I am not a fan of black at Weddings

    Because traditionally this is a colour in North America for mourning

    And therefore wearing it could be seen as a SNUB… implying that you aren’t that jazzed / supportive of the Marriage

    (Who would want to convey that message… even accidently ?)

    Of course in modern times Black has become a more acceptable colour for Weddings, as it says formal wear “the little black dress”

    BUT I still think those Weddings are few and far between (and even then, it is more about the Bridal Party than it is about Guests)

    With the fact that there is a rainbow of colours available… 100s if not 1000s, not sure WHY anyone would choose black and run the risk of offending the Bride, Groom, Family

    Black can look chic for sure… but unless I was really close to the Bride (family member), I wouldn’t run the risk of offending her

    Hope this helps,

    PS… Beyond the “funeral / mourning” aspect, a lot of time the no-no colours in North America actually have a lot more to do with how they translate in Photography (ie Guests in White or Light steal the focus from the Bride).  As for Black, it is a neutral… but it photographs flat.  In a group photo Guests who wear Brights are far more interesting IMO.  So a bright would be my first choice for Wedding Attire (also translates as “happy”… and that is what you want to convey… you are happy for the Wedding / Marriage of Friends or Family Members)


    Post # 8
    454 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @lolita39:  I think it absolutely fine – to be honest I haven’t been to many weddings but I always see at least a handful of people wearing black. Almost all the boys are in a dark neutral or black suit so why not a black dress? Also think it is gorgeous for a formal wedding – better to be dressed well in black than underdressed in a coloured dress.

    Post # 10
    454 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @lolita39:  If you’re really worried, ask the bride 🙂

    Post # 12
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @lolita39:  Personally, I think the only color that you shouldn’t wear is white. I’ve never had a problem with black.  Granted, I do come from a big big Italian family– and at weddings the Italian ladies always wear black and are dripping with jewlery, so many it’s a cultural thing?  I think it is wise of you to use what you have and the dress is very pretty.  I think it’s 100% appropriate.


    Post # 13
    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    One of fi’s aunts only wears black. There might be some white or grey but for the most part its black. Shes wearing black to the wedding and I coukd care less. I know she’s excited for me to marry fi amd doesn’t mean anything by it just as your aren’t. 

    I thinkthere’s way too many old etiquette “rules” that people are too concerned about, especially on here. The dress is gorgeous, wear it. 

    Post # 14
    1823 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Black is fine. It has become a classic color for cocktail attire, so I doubt anyone should think twice about it. And seriously considering that your spending time and money traveling to this wedding, it would be very petty for anyone to judge the color of your dress.

    Post # 15
    626 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    This is not the year 1900, black dresses do not signify mourning, and no one will be offended.  And I like to wear them to weddings and elsewhere because they look good on me, end of story.  Outdated etiquette be damned!  Its so annoying!


    Post # 16
    1590 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’ve worn black dresses a few times.

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