Post # 1
So….today’s wonderful post by Miss Glitter got me wondering. In her post she speaks of the fact that typically mother’s are not to wear black to the wedding of their son/daughter as it signifies a disappoval of the marriage. I have heard this before and understand the concept. However, in the post comments I saw that other girls have said that as a guest you are not to wear black to a wedding. I have never heard this before and HAVE worn black to a wedding and have seen many others in a little black cocktail dress. It never occured to me not to wear black to a fall or winter wedding before…have I overstepped the boundaries of good taste? What are everyone’s thoughts on this?
Post # 3
I probably wouldn’t wear black to a daytime wedding just because brighter, lighter colors are my personal preference for daytime weddings but for a night time wedding, I’m all for black! I figure that as long as I’m not wearing white, I’m good.
Post # 4
I think the different between a mother and say guest, is (1) the mother is a focal point of the wedding party and (2) her dress is often more formal (so it would likely look more like she showed up for a funeral than her daughters wedding).
It is not uncommon to see female guest sporting the little black dress at a wedding, but lets be honest as a guest you aren’t the center of attention and it is likely that your dress is a bit less formal than the MOTB. As always the case you can dress up your little black dress in a million ways, so that always helps!
Post # 5
It is an old tradition that people shouldn’t wear black to a wedding. However, people have been breaking this tradition for years already so it’s become pretty accepted.
Post # 6
I had heard that you shouldn’t wear black to a wedding, so I bought a purple dress for my friend’s evening wedding in January (of course, after see about 50 beautiful LBDs in stores). Out of my group of friends, I was the only person not to wear black!
Post # 7
I’ve work black to a wedding before. I think its fine so long as you aren’t MOB or MOG.
Post # 8
I think it’s fine even if you are the MOB/MOG. If you’re smiling, no one will think you’re wearing black because you hate your child’s new spouse.
Post # 9
I’m wearing black to my SIL’s wedding in 2 weeks.
My MIL wore black to my wedding. I didn’t think anything of it.
Post # 10
I always heard you aren’t *supposed* to wear black, but it’s SOOOO common now. I did read something about how the mothers shoudn’t wear black, but the mother of the groom should specifically wear a taupe or beigs so she doesn’t take the spotlight away from the bride and her family, which i thought was really dumb. Who’s going to wear taupe to their son’s wedding when there are so many other pretty colors?! LoL. My mom chose red…I just like color =]
Post # 11
I’ve worn black to weddings before and my BM are wearing black, too. Personally, it wouldn’t bother if my mom (or his) wanted to wear black, as I had never really heard of the tradition not to wear it because you disapproved of the wedding. I would probably never think twice about seeing a MOG/MOB in black.
Post # 12
I have personally worn black to a wedding but it was a very formal black tie affair and EVERONE wore black except the bride practically! And it was in the evening.
Also… my wedding is in the afternoon in the middle of July and is a rather informal event so black would not be appropriate for my wedding. (except maybe men in suits) the groomsmen are wearing chocolate brown suits. But my MIL was teasing that she would wear black to pretend that she was mourning her son getting married since he’s an only child! I thought this was hilarious but you must understand that we have a great relationship and I’m not worried about it at all…
And I would much rather she wear black then white =D (A friend of mine’s MIL showed up in white dress that looked like a wedding dress…. then was asked to purchase another dress before the wedding!!!) to funny….
Post # 13
formal night time weddings black is OK, but I think it is best for moms to avoid it in general unless the couple is OK w/ it
Post # 14
I absolutely think black is ok for weddings – both for guests and for MOB/MOG. I am getting married in December in the evening and my mom is wearing floor-length black. And I love it! First of all, she ALWAYS wears black (as do I) in real life so why wouldn’t she wear black on the happiest day of the year! haha… As was mentioned earlier, if the mother looks unhappy or has vocally made her opinion of the union known, that is a different situation. Black as a wedding guest is also always appropriate…JUST DON’T WEAR WHITE 🙂
Post # 15
I am totally for wearing black at a wedding, as there are now so many cute black dresses that are out there. My bridesmaids and several of the guests wore black and looked amazing. If you are concerned as a guest, you can always dress it up with some color accessories like a shawl or a sweater and jewelry. Just as others have said, white’s the only thing that really should be avoided.
Post # 16
The older generation especially tends to view black at a wedding as inappropriate. Obviously many people don’t have an issue with it, but I think if you are worried about it at all, why not wear something else? Black is a little overused for formal/dressy occasions anyway.