Post # 1
Let me start off by saying my FI picked out my engagement ring all by himself, and I love it. It’s perfect for me. We had a 14 month engagement so shopping for wedding bands was not high on our list of things to do first, but dress shopping was. I am not close with my mom, I never have been and highly doubt that I ever will be…So my Aunt and I ended up going with a few of my friends.
On one of these shopping trips, she hands me a ring box and said “this is yours, gram wanted you and your sister to have her rings when you girls got married”. The look of shock on my face must have been a poloraid moment, I never dreamed I would be getting her wedding band….I had always thought they were my Aunts. Her band is simple and delicate white gold with delicate engraving around the band. I immediatly decided to use her wedding band as my wedding band. It never even needed resized, it fit me perfectly. My FI is also wearing his grand-fathers wedding ring that his grand-father hand made himself. I always though this was sweet, and honestly, I was over-joyed to be wearing my grand-mother’s ring.
Flash forward to yesterday…I was finalizing a few things for the wedding and at one of the stores I was it, the clerk was admiring my e-ring. Since my wedding is so close, she was asking me about the wedding band and I said I was wearing my grand-mother’s ring and not the one that matches my ring. The words that came out of her mouth make me actually regret that and have forced me to go ring shopping today…with less than a month left until our wedding.
She looked at me with her mouth open and said, “why in the hell would you want to do that? She’s dead, let it go and get your own ring”. I left the store in tears after that and will be letting them know I will be taking my buissness elsewear. It does not erase that feeling though that maybe other people think it’s wrong for me to be wearing my grand-mother’s ring…
I don’t know what to do at this point and advice is needed.
Post # 2
- Wedding: January 2014 - Lizard Island, Australia
Don’t let one dozy woman’s comments upset you you were so happy before. I would love it if I could wear my Nan’s wedding band I think you’re very lucky and I think it’s so special that your hubby to be is wearing his grandfathers. Why are you letting what this lady said upset you? Please don’t x
Post # 3
What a #$%^&!!!! The ring sounds lovely, screw what some biatch who doesn’t know you thinks
Post # 4
Ignore her!! Use your grandmother’s ring! I’m sorry, but don’t let other people tell you how you should feel! Wear your grandmother’s ring proudly, that has so much more value than some ring you pick up at a shop. Can we see pics? 🙂
Post # 5
I wear my Grandmother’s wedding ring. She may be dead now but she wore her ring through 40 years of happy marriage. As well as having a part of her with me, I hope that my marriage will be as long lasting and beautiful as hers.
Don’t let the stoopid woman put you off.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry i accidentally voted that it’s wrong. I think it’s beautiful and it’s sentimental and forget other people. I can’t believe a professional would’ve used her opinion like that. It is none of her business so I hope you will make a complaint against her for whatever it’s worth. Unbelievable!
Post # 7
Wow that woman was incrediy rude, I imagine she’d be in total disgust at how many women inherit their erings and wedding bands. Pls don’t let her stulid remark get to you, the fact that the ring was your grandmother’a is even more reason to wear it proudly. when we were planning out wedding my MIL plef out a box with both Dh’ grandmothers erings and wedding bands, she said his grandmothers had wanted to pass on their rings to any of the grand kids getting married except my Dh forgot about it when he proposed and bought me my own ering. anyway itried them on and his maternal grandma’s band fit and was so pretty I chose it asy wedding band. I love that it has a history behind it and that it will continue to be passed down, it has their wedding date engraved on it and even says “to J” (her name was Julia). Whenever people find out it was his grandmothers I’ve never gotten any bad look, everyone’s always complimented and think it’s sweet.
Your grandmother’s ring sounds beautiful, can we see a pic of it?
Post # 8
I wear my grandmother’a engagement ring. There is absolutely no reason you shouldn’t wear it. That lady is nuts! I think it makes it special to wear a family heirloom.
Post # 9
MrsEmployed: oh my god, how ignorant is she???? I’ll have you know that not a day goes by where I am not dying of jealousy that my cousin owns my grandmother’s engagement ring. You wear that baby with pride and remember her fondly when you think of the generations of love that have passed down with that ring.
That woman needs to learn some manners and keep her big, fat, ignorant, base, classless mouth shut.
Post # 10
Wear your grandma’s ring with pride. I think it’s great that you’re both wearing heirloom rings. The clerk was rude, and she should have kept her opinion to herself.
Post # 11
MrsEmployed: and yes, pics please!!
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
What the sales clerk said was disrespectful and wrong. Your wedding band is a family heirloom, it has a history and immense sentimental value that this narrow minded sales oriented and highly disrestpectful woman failed to see. Please don’t let that overshadow the pride and sentiment of wearing your grandmother’s ring.
Post # 13
MrsEmployed: That clerk was a bitch. Wear your grandma’s wedding band and be happy about it!
Post # 14
I wear my grandmss wedding ring on my right hand sometimes as its too delicate and worn for everyday. Doesn’t the fact that she’s passed make it MORE special? Smh at that weird sales clerk!!
Post # 15
That is the rudest thing I’ve ever heard. Heirloom rings are fairly common as wedding or engagement rings. I’ll have FIs grandmothers engagement ring and his sister plans to use the wedding band when she eventually gets married. She was trying to sell you a matching band and was made she wasn’t going to get commission. If you love the band and it makes you feel special, then that is your band!