Post # 1
So tomorrow I’m going to my first Rosh Hashana with FI’s family. Needless to say I’m not Jewish, and he is only half-jewish. The family is reform and only midly religious. I bought a red cocktail dress to wear to his cousin’s house tomorrow and now I’m reading up on things that say that red is bad luck and wear white?
How big of a faux pas would it be to wear red and would YOU notice? My family is Catholic and there are so many things you shouldn’t wear to Easter that no one notices or gives a damn about. Please tell me it’s the same! Or else I’ll find a white dress by tomorrow, lol.
Post # 4
@princesslettuce14: You’ll be fine in a reform household with that on!
Post # 5
Thanks for the response! FI thinks you shouldn’t wear red to weddings so I was unsure if the rule carried over to other occasions.
Post # 6
@princesslettuce14: It’s probably too late, and yes FI got mad once when I wore a red trench coat jacket over a black dress to a funeral so I get your question– but your description of cocktail dress makes me question what the dress looks like. I think the color is generally fine, depending on how bright it is, but usually people wear work-type clothing to synagogue, not really skin-baring clothing. Is it just a meal and not actually rosh hashanah services? In that case it really depends on how people dress- my cousins usually change into jeans and wear that to rosh hashanah meals. I think sweater dresses, sheath dresses, skirt and top, that’s what I see people wearing to services.
Post # 7
i know it is too late now, but a cocktail dress of any color to rosh hashanah dinner sounds way over dressed to me.
i never heard of not wearing a certain color. on yom kippur you are not supposed to wear leather. you will see many people in canvas shoes like keds. but most of my shoes are leather, and i wear what is comfortable and goes with what i decide to wear. if it is chilly, plenty of people arrive in shul wearing leather jackets. i belong to a conservative shul.
since he is reform, you can practically do anything.