Wearing the ring at work: Hesitant young professional.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t think most employers worry about the engagement ring. I’ve experienced more the pregnancy issues, will she come back from mat leave?  etc.  It was never really verbalized to the person(i’ve never  been preg at work), just a little concern that someone was leaving them hanging to max out on benies and not let them know so they could hire a new person.  Wear the ring, 

Post # 4
6812 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Eventually, it’s going to come out that you’re engaged and it’ll be weird if you don’t have a ring, as most people assume that comes with a proposal.  Just wear it, own it.  Don’t let it be something it’s not. 

Post # 5
855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I work in an industry that is predominately male, and all the women I’ve worked with that have gone on maternity leave have returned to working full time and my mother worked full time during my childhood, so I’m unfamiliar with the assumption that being married means you are one step closer to quitting.

I think you should wear your ring and not worry what assumptions people will make.  Not wearing it doesn’t immediately make you seem older or younger or anything really.

Post # 6
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Go ahead and wear it. Nobody will care. It’s not like it’s unusual for women in the working world to be married nowadays. I’d say go ahead and wear it. It will draw more attention if you suddenly start wearing it after people know you (because people will think you are newly engaged) than if you start wearing it now when you’re new. 

Post # 7
2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would say wear it…at the end of the day it is part of who you are and I presume that at some point you will be taking holiday for the wedding and honeymoon. Wearing the ring is a nondescript way of letting them know you’re engaged without shouting about it from the rooftops. 

Post # 8
1574 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I did not wear my engagement ring for my most recent interview, but did wear my wedding band. I interviewed with a large non-profit, and didn’t know anyone there. Also, I’ve just gotten in the habit of saying “partner” and not boyfriend/husband (that’s more something from my industry – lots of us do it. There are a fair amount of LGBTQIQA individuals in my industry, and also when I do workshops, i don’t want to appear one way or the other.). I guess I carried that over to the engagement ring. Also, my wedding band is small adn simple. Now that I’m hired, I’ll probably wait a few days adn then wear my ring once I’m more comfortable. However, I’ll be doing a lot of community education, and have no plans to go sans ring

Post # 9
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Honestly, I don’t think people notice e-rings that much (unless they are looking for them for some reason). I was talking to a client the other day and mentioned something about the wedding. I’ve seen this client many times since I got engaged. I’ve said things about my fiancé (using the word ‘fiancé’). I always wear my ring. His response was, “Oh, you’re getting married? Congratulations!” He had no idea. I think that’s how most people are. Before I got engaged I didn’t really care about e-rings so I didn’t look for them and therefore, didn’t notice them. Now like to see what other people have so I look sometimes. 

Post # 10
2 posts



I live in a college town, so around here, if employers know you like the area (and plan on staying in town a long time) they’ll feel better about investing into you. The employers I know see marriage as a sign you’re settling down and will be working there a long time. Sound weird? I’ve heard it from friends.

Plus, now a days, it’s not taken for granted that marriage means children right away. Couples wait much longer to have children, and seem to keep working (with child in daycare) more these days. I think all those factors make employers view engagemet/marriage as negligible. 

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