Wearing White Lingerie When You're Not Engaged or Married

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I really feel like you’re overthinking this. 

Post # 4
2079 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Livelifeveryday:  I have never heard of this before and I cannot relate to it or understand it at all..it is just not a concern that would ever occupy my brain.

Post # 6
6631 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Way overthinking this. 

Post # 7
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I don’t plan on wearing white lingerie on my wedding night and I never even heard of it having any kind of special significance until I read your post.

I’d just buy some new white lingerie for your wedding night and try not to worry about it.

Post # 8
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

white lingerie should not spoil anything for you.  When you are engaged it will feel different, and not because of the color of your outfit. 

Post # 9
1535 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think the last thing on your SO’s mind was the color of the lingerie you were wearing

don’t worry about it

Post # 10
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

it should not spoil anything at all!  however, traditionally – the while lingerie brides wear on their wedding night was to be bought by their mother… as a “rite of passage” type of thing. ( I learned this when buying a gift for a lingerie party!) But, I don’t think anyone follows that anymore!

Post # 11
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Tphan:  +1. And it seems to be the common concensus that everyone is so exhausted on their wedding night that a wild night of passion is not in the cards anyway (myself included, it was the last thing on our minds when we finally finished our 20 hour day.)

Post # 12
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

My first thought was “the only problem with white is that it’s hard to wash, especially as white only machine washes tend to be high temperature compared to a mixed wash”.

Beyond that… it would never have occurred to me to be concerned with the colour of my bras and pants.

Post # 13
3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Livelifeveryday:  I wore black on our wedding night, once I sobered up enough to put something on. 

If you’re doing the deed now, what’s the color of your g-stirng have to do with anything?

Post # 14
5905 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Livelifeveryday:  It’s an interesting concept…but totally flawed in practice….80% of my underwear is white…and I never paid much attention to it.

Post # 16
9856 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Livelifeveryday:  I don’t think it’s really that big a deal but I understand where you’re coming from.  I’ve intentionally never purchased white lingere, I’ve always thought of it as a wedding night thing as well.  I know lots of other people don’t see it that way, but I do.

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