Wearing White to a Wedding

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Nope, still rude unless the bride specifically OKs/asks that you do so. I don’t think that has changed much.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’ve seen a little of this, but I still consider it the height of rudeness. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Are you expecting a particular person to do that?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’ve never seen it at any of the number of weddings I’ve been to, so I don’t really think it is something you need to give a lot of thought to. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee

I think its rude… Only because I wouldn’t want anyone wearing white in my wedding. I recently went to a wedding and this women I knew, she was wearing a mini white dress… I know a few people that didn’t want people to wear white simply added that on their wedding invitations. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

It’s rude, but I certainly wouldn’t make them leave. I think it’s kind of silly to think a white dress will take away from the bride because honestly guests typically don’t wear dresses that look anything remotely like a wedding gown. You probably won’t even notice.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think it’s inappropriate to wear white (or a dress that is primarily white – personally I think white background with a pattern is fine), but it’s just as rude to make a scene about it.  Honestly, if you’re fixating on what your guests are wearing on your wedding day, you’re doing it wrong.  Just enjoy your day and ignore that stuff – in the end, it doesn’t matter at all.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

nk1233:  It’s definitely a little rude, but I can’t even remember what most of my guests wore….you will be so elated by the day that you won’t notice anything else.  And no one will mistake a guest in white for the bride!  Most people would probably side-eye whoever it was.  I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I guess other people think its rude- I could not care less. No way is someone in a white sundress going to outshine a bride! The rule just seems silly to me

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

nk1233:  You ignore it (I don’t understand why people do that, it’s really rude). Believe me, guests will be giving any person that wears white (other than the bride) a lot of evil eyes and whispers about that person.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My neighbor’s daughter (she’s 16) wore white to my wedding.  A long white dress.  but it looked more like a maxi summery dress than a ball gown. 

 

I didn’t care.  The idea is not to take attention away from the bride.  But there’s a vast difference between a wedding dress and a plain white dress.  I think it’s silly to think it will outdo the bride.  some people mentioned it to me and I did think it was odd, but what did I care?  she looked great but her dress would not be mistaken for a wedding dress.  I looked great too.  🙂

 

My brother’s wife had the bridesmaids all wear short white dresses.  My friend asked her mother and her husband’s mother to wear long white dresses.  She liked the monochrome look (as do I).  I like it.  

 

That being said, I have a gorgeous white dress I wore as my “second” reception dress that I’d never wear to a wedding.  I don’t think it’s mistakeable as a wedding dress (to me), but it has some sort of factor to it.  (picture of emily thorne wearing it here: http://www.celebritystyleguide.com/images/items/Revenge-Fashion-Season-2-Episode-18-Emily-White-Gown-Masquerade.jpg  )I wouldn’t want someone wearing a dress like THAT to my wedding, either.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

nk1233:  A friend wore a white dress to my wedding. It was knee length and lacey with a very pale pink underlay. I really didn’t care. She came up to me and said “soandso told me my dress was too white to wear today but i didnt think so!” and I agreed. Who cares. Everyone knows shes not the bride.

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