Wearing white to a wedding..?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’ve seen plenty of photos on Facebook where I thought people were wearing white only to realize it was light blue or light pink, even gold but I couldn’t see that because of the lighting. I wouldn’t worry too much and there’s nothing you can do about it. It’s not like someone will mistake them for the bride and they’ll look silly in a full white dress anyway with people side eyeing them. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I went to a wedding last night, I saw at least 10 solid or lace white dresses. I don’t see the big deal, but these are all big traditional weddings where the bride wears a ball gown and there’s 400 guests so I don’t see why it would matter if they wore white. People wore white dresses and jeans to my wedding, who cares? It’s the people not what they are wearing that matters, 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Aug 30th, 2014

I’ve never got why wearing white at a wedding is a problem. No guest is going to outshine the bride, and white is a very appropriate color for a summer event.

I mean, male guests wear suits or tuxedos just like the groom, and it’s not like anyone ever gets confused about who the groom is. 😉

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I was just at a wedding a couple of weeks ago where the aunt of the groom wore a bridal gown herself. It was strapless with a sweetheart neckline, fit and flare. I was lace with ivory underlay. 

She was the talk of the entire wedding of 600 people, and not in a good way. What the hell was she thinking?????

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would say that wearing white to a wedding (unless you are the bride) is the mark of someone raised by wolves, but then that would be insulting to wolves.  People do all types of things that I can not understand. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You will be so caught up in the excitement of the day you will not even notice if someone is wearing white, and if you do notice, you will not care. Your wedding day is big blur/whirlwind. There is no way anyone can outshine the bride in a simple white dress. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

MackenzieRaelin:  Of course others wearing white will not upstage the bride, she’s the bride! That being said, it’s just one of those ettiquette things that you just don’t do. As a wedding photographer, I see at least 2-3 people at every wedding I shoot wearing white dresses. I just don’t get it? Out of EVERYTHING you have in your closet you could wear to a wedding you think a white dress is appropriate?? These are same people who spend the ceremony with their cell phones in the air taking photos of shooting selfies with the bride in the background as she walks down the isle. :/ People are just so oblivious these days – it’s become a “me me me, I’m so important” socieity.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

As others have said, I dont get wearing white to the wedding when you are not the bride . . . hello, are you telling me there isn’t anything else in your closet?

Given how I am, if someone did wear something white or ivory to mine, I might have to say something a little snarky.  

Yes, it is the day I’m celebrating the union of me and my partner, but let us be honest here, the only time someone else other than the bride is wearing white to a wedding feels she has something to prove.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

MackenzieRaelin:  Nope, it is not okay now. I really don’t understand why they couldn’t wear anything else that was in their closet. I don’t think there are even that many white dresses in stores so someone would really have to go out of their way to wear white. No onewill say anything, I don’t think, but there will be a lot of guests shooting dagers at the person that chose to go to a wedding wearing white. I’ve heard that as a bride you usually don’t notice at the time, but it is noticable in the photos afterwards. I believe that everyone we invited to the wedding has enough sense to not wear any form of white, so I am not worried about ours. Even if they did no one is going to be wearing anything close to what I am wearing and if they did then they have a serious case of narcisism.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I think its very tacky to do so and wouldn’t wear white, off white or white lace. As others have said the bride will be easily noticable, as it should be, but out of every other color one could wear why would you wear white? Besides, how often do we actually wear white when we go to parties. Rarely. I have NEVER seen a white dress(though that could just beme)

However, the last wedding I went to the mother of the bride was wearing a white dress. I was SHOCKED and I turned to my fiancee and was like “Do you see what she is wearing. Tasteless.” he was like ??????  Men cearly don’t get it, or rather he didnt, but I think it refelects poorly on a person to wear white.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

No it’s not ok.  I’m sure these people could have found a different dress for one night. It’s kind of a  shame they don’t know any better. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

I wore a champagne beaded gown to a wedding and got the stink-eye from a lot of people.  You can’t win.  A white, short dress is fine.

My MIL wore white to my BILs wedding.  Nobody cared.  

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