Post # 1
Is this now acceptable? I’m just wondering becase the last 4 weddings I have been to, I noticed guests in white dresses.
One of the guests was even wearing a long white flowy dress!
I’ve always thought that it wasn’t acceptable to wear white to a wedding, but now I’m wondering if times have changed??
Post # 3
I wouldn’t have noticed if someone had worn white to my wedding. I wouldn’t have cared, either.
Post # 4
I think it might be out the window, but if you as a guest ‘notice’ this and make a mental note of it… I would perhaps suggest it unwise to do.
Just let the bride have her day– regardless of where you stand on the etiquette issue.
Post # 5
@Hyperventilate: I totally agree, I wouldn’t have cared either! I own some cute white dresses that I’d like to wear to weddings myself, but I’m always afraid of accidently offending the bride! Wondering what the general consensus is?
Post # 6
Considering that guests also don’t RSVP, don’t bring cards, don’t understand that if it doesn’t say “and guest” that you can’t bring a guest etc etc Then yes, the “don’t wear white” rule is going out the window.
But I would look down on any quest I saw wearing white at any wedding.
Post # 7
Someone wore a white dress to my wedding and I didn’t even notice until I saw pictures the next day. I didn’t really care. However, I do notice as a guest when other guests wear white and I do find it a bit strange. There are so many other colors out there, why wear a completely white dress to someone’s wedding? I think a lot of brides out there do still care so I wouldn’t risk wearing white to someone’s wedding even though I as a bride didn’t care.
Post # 8
Save the cute white dresses for another occasion. Let the bride have her white.
Post # 9
With a plethora of colors available, I think it’s still best to leave white to the bride and bridesmaids. You don’t want to be that guest that looks like you’ve wandered into the wedding straight from P.Diddy’s Hamptons party.
Post # 10
@simplyMrsN: I don’t think it is acceptable and I wouldn’t risk it. Lots of guests do things they aren’t supposed to do- if wedding guests start jumping off the cliff, would you? I know someone who is still upset with a SIL for wearing white to her wedding 30 years ago. If someone wears white to my wedding, then my mother would ask them to leave and not come back until they are dressed appropriately- Momma Bear would be pissed! And it would bother me- I think it is disrespectful and guests should know better.
Post # 11
Guests wearing white to a wedding – mine or anyone else’s – annoys me an irrational amount. IMO, it’s just disrespectful.
Post # 12
I definitely wouldnt look down on anyone either.
ETA: I personally would not wear white but I never wear a white dress to anything unless it’s an all-white affair.
Post # 13
@simplyMrsN: I still can’t believe people do this! I would be pretty irritated if I was a guest at a wedding and another guest was wearing white…I honestly thought it was common knowledge. If it was my wedding, I probably wouldn’t notice….hopefully.
Post # 14
@HeartsandSparkles: Lol, no of course I wouldn’t start jumping off cliffs, just cause other guests did. But like I previously said, I wouldn’t have been offended if guests wore white at my wedding (i didn’t even notice if one did), and just wondering how many bees would be offended if guests wore white at theirs. Congrats on your upcoming wedding, and hope no one shows up in white!
Thanks for the responses ladies! I’ll continue to stick to my non white dresses for weddings, better safe than sorry I guess!
Post # 15
I think it’s rude. I wouldn’t do it personally. Unless it was like a white sun dress w/ a print or something. My idiot cousin wore a ridiculous fluffy white dress to someone’s wedding. I actually thought she got married at first.
Post # 16
@simplyMrsN: Personally, I wouldn’t care at all if someone wore white to my wedding. I don’t like being the center of attention anyway-
It’s a color (or lack thereof), on a person. Not sure why people would be flocking to someone else and showering them with attention – or taking attention away from- the bride just because they are wearing white. As much as I do know it’s a “no no” – like no white after Labor Day and no white before Memorial Day- I guess I just want to know who makes these rules LOL
Now if someone came to my wedding in a white wedding gown– LOL- well I’d probably laugh and then tell them to take a hike.
I wouldn’t wear white to a wedding, but that’s because you won’t catch me in white in general- except for my wedding day- and my dress is ivory!