Post # 1
I’ve heard of brides-to-be wearing white at the rehersal dinner and sometimes even to the bridal shower, but what about the engagement party? My party is this summer and I really wanted to wear a casual white dress, but FSIL tells me it’s a cheesy thing to do that detracts from the wedding dress on the big day. Also it apparently makes me look desperate because the wedding won’t be for 2 years and it’ll seem like I’m jumping the gun.
I had no idea some people feel so strongly against brides wearing white before the wedding. Maybe it’s just her? Granted, my wedding won’t be for a while so I’m not exactly in full-on “bride mode” yet, but is wearing white really that big a deal? Is it more acceptable the closer you get to the wedding or is white ok for the bride any time?
Below is a link to the dress I’m thinking about wearing. Your thoughts?
Post # 3
Your FSIL sounds fun. I don’t see anything wrong with wearing white to your engagement party and I don’t see how on Earth a casual white dress could detract from your wedding dress.
Post # 4
Holy wow that is a strong opinion over something that really isn’t a big deal one way or the other! Wear the dress that makes you happy! That one is super cute.
Post # 5
hmmm… you should make a poll. I don’t think that most people would really think anything of it if you wore white to your own e-party, but it would be interesting to see what everyone thinks.
Plus, it’s a cute dress!
Post # 6
I have never heard of this rule. I think you can wear any color you want to wear to the engagement party
Post # 7
Cheesey and desperate…wow. I wore a white-ish dress to my engagement party! I like that dress, I say go for it.
Post # 8
Wow, your FSIL is not nice! I wore the cutest short white dress, with a rhinestone sash as a belt and hot pink heels to my engagement party and got tons of compliments, YOU.ARE.THE.BRIDE. this is the only time you will be able to do these fun cute “brideish” outfits…If I could wear a veil to work I would…but it’s not business casual…
Go for it!
Post # 9
I totally wore white to my engagement party and it was not a big deal at all. I think it just made people start “thinking of me” as a bride, and it was a cute shorter dress, like yours. I probably won’t wear white to a shower or the rehearsal dinner now, but at the engagement party, it was very appropriate. And my engagement party was almost a full 2 years before the wedding day.
Post # 10
It’s all about YOU! Wear whatever you want! White is great, because it really makes you feel like it’s ‘real’. Go for it!
Post # 11
Wow, the response is pretty much unanimous. I guess it’s not so much the dress as the FSIL that I should be worried about…
Post # 12
As a person who likes wearing white regardless of when I was engaged or now being married – its still a color just like any other, def wear white to your party!
Post # 13
The bride can wear whatever she wants. Order the dress. Nuff said : )
Post # 14
HAHA almost every bride I have known wore white to every event they had!
Shower, Bach party, Engagement party, Rehearsal! Who cares! Its fun!
Post # 15
Bottom line – you can wear what you want! I wore white to both my shower and rehearsal dinner only because my FSIL/FMIL told me I was supposed to as the bride. Like others, I had never heard of this before. I thought maybe it was an East Coast thing (cuz my MOH from California had never heard of it either and thought I should NOT wear white – but I did anyways.) However, I recently went to an engagement party in NY where the bride-to-be did NOT wear white. When I asked, she said she was saving that for closer to the wedding (shower and rehearsal).
Post # 16
Cute dress and definitely wear it. You can wear whatever you want whenever you want. Don’t let your FSIL tell you otherwise!