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I think it depends. Some people don't care and some people do. for me though I would never wear white to someone else's wedding, because I never know if the bride would be okay with it or not. But I agree I dont think you should get mad at someone for wearing cream/ivory/white if they didn't know. I remember the very first wedding I went too, I wore a floor length flowy white skirt, and a brown tank top blouse that synched at the waist, and brown flip flops. I was young and didn't really know the rules. Granted now I don't think it was big deal because I wasn't fully wearing white, just on my skirt, but someone totally freaked on me (not the bride.) about wearing that white skirt. I later talked to the bride (my cousin) and she was like "What?! It's not a big deal, it's not like you are wearing a white shirt too!" So I was glad she didn't care. So for me though I would never wear a full on white outfit to a wedding. Maybe a white dress with a colored pattern on it or something. but never full on white. But then some brides wear pink,red, etc. colored dresses so should people not wear those colors either because the bride is wearing them. People just assume the bride is wearing white/ivory, which makes sense cause that is the norm., but I'm just saying.

I would never! It's one of my biggest wedding pet peeves I get so mad when I see it. I'm pretty sure that if anyone wore white to mine I would give them a slow look up and down with a VERY pointed eyebrow raise. :(

IMO, as long as it's not a bridal gown, it's ok. 

@Mrs.ChubbyBunny:

HAHAHA! yeah I don't mess around with my facial expressions, I would strike them dead with a glance! :P

Honestly, I didn't notice anything that my guests wore; I was a little preoccupied :-). But that said, I wouldn't wear a white dress to a wedding, especially a formal one.

@mightywombat: couldn't have said it better myself.  I think it is such a stupid rule and think it only exists to make someone feel bad.  That said, because I do know about the rule and how others feel about it, I would never ever wear white to someone's wedding, though I honestly could not care less if someone showed up wearing white to mine.

I dont think its ok to wear all white or all cream to a wedding.  To my vow renewal I would not mind at all if someone showed up in all white or cream but I'm pretty easy going.

You may have noticed that I have rather old-fashioned standards of style and etiquette. You won't have noticed (so you'll just have to take my word for it) that I'm a bossy conniving old tartar who does everything in my power to perpetuate those standards into my younger relatives.

As little as fifty years ago, a white dress was the normal sunday-best dress for girls in any formal situation. It is simple, not inappropriately eye-catching, fresh, innocent. Some of my nieces have had plain white Sunday-best from time to time, and now that they are mothers I encourage them to follow the same old-fashioned standard, so it's unsurprising for family weddings to include a number of simply-dressed sweetly feminine little white-clad maidens. But they hardly look "bridal": they are little girls. Of course, by traditional rules, women are also supposed to dress in pale colours to avoid giving the wedding a somber look, and there are usually lots of pale greens and pinks and yellows about on the grown women; even champagnes and beiges -- but they don't really look "bridal" either.

By the same old-fashioned standard, family brides tend to be a little more restrained in the "big white dress" department; reserving ball-gowns for actual balls and choosing something more reminiscent of the restrained elegance appropriate to garden parties, legal procedings, and church services. Some how, the fact that their dresses are less uniquely bridal seems to go along with a greater tolerance for other people infringing on their "pop" factor.

Now, when I go to weddings for other families, or when it's a nephew rather than a niece getting married, I'm prepared for a different style; and I avoid that nice pale-mint linen sheath I'm so fond of, in favour of something more vivid. No point in ruining someone else's day, even if their concerns do seem rather silly and self-aggrandizing.

Personally, It's not a really big deal to me cuz everyone at the wedding should know who the bride is anyway and they're going to pay the most attention to that person.

Chances are I won't have to deal with that cuz white dresses are less common in the fall and that's when our reception is, but if I did then I wouldn't let it ruin our day cuz I know I'd hate it if someone told me as a bride, I had to wear pure white. I'm wearing Ivory cuz it's going to be October and I never cared much for pure white.

I think it is best to play it safe and not wear white. Who knows if the bride is wearing a traditional wedding dress? Who knows if she'll care?  I personally don't care, but I know so many people who do that it is just best not to raise (pointy) eyebrows. :)