Post # 1
We have an etiquette question and need help from our fellow bees!
We are in the process of setting up our wedding website and have put our registry information online. We are also giving guests the option to RSVP via mail or the website. With the website when one RSVP’s, yes or no, it automatically redirects them to the registry page. We aren’t putting this information on our invitation and are spreading the registry information via our parents and the website. Anyway, would you let it redirect to the registry page or would you turn that feature off? We don’t want to seem gift grabby because that isn’t the focus of our wedding. Thoughts and opinions welcome.
Post # 3
I would definitely turn it off. That seems really gift-grabby to me. When I RSVP, I usually don’t intend to purchase the gift right away, and so it would not only feel like you are flat out prompting me for a gift, but that you are also prompting me to buy it RIGHT NOW.
Post # 4
No, I wouldnt. If you have a website, its enough to have a table of contents or links page including a link to the registry, but not to automatically be redirected to it. If they can get to your page to rsvp, surely they can find the registry page.
Post # 5
Our registries are mentioned on our website, on their own page that guests can choose to check out or not. I definitely wouldn’t have the site automatically redirect to the registry after RSVPing – if I were the guest, I’d find that really off-putting.
Post # 6
The only way they are acceptable on a website is if the person has to click a link (which is a kin to asking) which takes them to the registry.
Having it auto pop-up is pretty much the same as asking for it, or giving it out unsolicited.
People who want to find out registry information will. No need to force it on them.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t have your website direct guests to a registry.
If I were a guest, I’d likely send you a gift that was specifically NOT on a registry, and pretend I didn’t realize you had one. (But I may be a bit passive agressive!) I would be offended – it could definitely seem as though you are focused on making sure your guests (attending or not!) send you a gift – of your choosing. It’s a bit much, IMO.
A general mention of the stores at which are registered elsewhere on your site should be sufficient to allow you guests to find the registry. You could even have a hyperlink there. But I wouldn’t redirect the guests.
Post # 8
All of your thoughts were exactly what we were thinking. It is rather rude and off-putting. We found out about the re-direct when we were planning out the RSVP software–so glad we did otherwise, we never would have found this problem. For future reference, the site that is doing this is a free one from ProjectWedding.