"We'd Give You The Apartment If You Were MARRIED"

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
1987 posts
Buzzing bee

@MexiPino:  I can understand why they would not have you as a co-signer, but he should be able to apply with you as an occupant (and not a co-signer) if his income and credit are enough to be the primary name on the lease. Can you ask them if you can do that? That way you are only an occupant and he would be the lease-holder. 






Post # 5
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

http://m.youtube.com/index?&desktop_uri=%2F I am so sorry that you were turned down for such a sucky reason! 


Screw their rubbishapartment :3 you’ll definitely find something better, hope you feel better soon


Eta: bah, don’t think my YouTube link will work cause of being on my phone – imagine a baby penguin being tickled

Post # 6
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MexiPino:  uuuuuuuuuugh! I encountered this same stupid nonsense when FI and I were apartment shopping. We found a townhouse to rent that we like, and after hemming and ahwing, the manager asked if we were married (we weren’t engaged yet) and then said “well….. typically we need both parties to make X amount. If you were married, that would be one thing. but…. I mean, I guess I can see if there’s something we can swing for you”

We left.

Post # 7
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MexiPino:  Ugh, I’m sorry that happened to you.

I’ve read about discrimination against singles and unmarried/unengaged couples when it came to housing applications. It actually surprises me how blatant that discrimination is – my SO and I were apartment hunting, and the landlord told us blatantly that she favored us over the single applicants. However, just like @MrsYokiman: said, can’t you just be a sub-lessee (or lessor?) on your SO’s lease? I know many buildings don’t allow that, but can’t hurt to find out.

Post # 8
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think it’s discrimination if it is based off of income requirements. Since you are not legally tied together (and thus your incomes are not legally tied together) I think they are perfectly within their rights. It’s not the same thing as discriminating against non-marrieds, IMO.

Post # 9
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

WTF?! Our apartment complex just wanted to make sure that, together, we made 3x the rent (which is standard).

Post # 10
11593 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

So strange.  We had to show the adequate funds (4x the rent) to rent the apartment, but they never asked if we were married or engaged or anytihng. They cared more that DH was a student at the time rather than our martial status..

Post # 12
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

This seems completely ridiculous to me. They should be letting him apply by himself if it’s such a problem and you being a “roommate”. It isn’t their bsiness whatsoever whether you are married or not IMO.

Post # 14
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yeah… our apt didn’t care if we were married. We weren’t even engaged when we moved in. Our neighbors were aprehensive, but I suppose they were worried we would be loud fighters!
Did we individually make at least 3x the rent? Yes? Our credit checked out? OK, approved.

I thought it was illegal to deny housing based on marital status??

Post # 15
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@CakeyP:  It is only illegal to discriminate against unmarried couples for housing in Alaska, California, Massachusetts, Michigan, and New Jersey.

Everywhere else is OK.

Post # 16
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MexiPino:  Can’t your BF be a co-signer for you?  If not, would your parents be willing to co-sign?

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