(Closed) wedding

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Not to be rude, but why does it matter if the groomsmen and his wife got you a card? He was in your wedding, standing by your husband on the most important day of your lives. That isn’t enough?

As for the childhood friend thing, I agree it’s rude, but why did you invite her if you don’t hardly talk to her? That was at your discretion to invite someone who obviously didn’t care that much to be there to begin with.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but you need to consider all of these things before you begin to speak ill-ly of them. 

Post # 6
Member
12821 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kitty12mmk:  Did you just post a congratulations to yourself?  I’m confused.

ANYWAY.

I’d just get over it.  They probably didn’t come say goodbye because you were in the middle of talking to all of your other guests, or dancing, or doing something where you looked busy. 

Post # 7
Member
3472 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I didn’t get to say goodbye to more than 1/2 the guests at my wedding– many of them left while I was working on saying goodbye to someone else.  This is highly common. 

As for your comments about how rude the groomsman and friend were for not giving you a gift or a card; I think it’s quite rude that you expected one.  

Your guests were there to share in your special day.  NOTHING MORE.  Gifts are not requried by anyone, not even at a shower, not to mention the groomsman and his wife probably had to spend money on your wedding anyway for his outfit, travel arrangements, bachelor party, etc.  If you didn’t want to pay for their plate of food without compensation then you shouldn’t have invited them in the first place. 

ETA: Wedding gifts are not tit-for-tat just because you had the financial means and incination to get her a gift does not mean she is obligated to do the same. 

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