- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I think I have my mind made up on what I want to do, but I’d like to know if I’m being unreasonable. So…here’s what’s going on…
DH’s cousin (we’ll call her N) got engaged this past Feb, obviously we were so excited for her and she said the wedding would be in Nov of 2014. Late Feb we found out that we’re expecting and I’m due Nov 8.
So, in June we found out the N changed her mind and is now getting married this Nov. OK, fine, it’s her wedding and she can do what she wants. So her wedding is Nov 12, but the reception isn’t until Nov 22. Then MIL and her mom and sister (N’s mom) starts pressuring DH and I saying that unless I’m in the hospital we HAVE to be at the wedding. They also told DH that unless I’m in labor, he HAS to be there. So, I could still be in the hospital after giving birth, and they expect him to be at the wedding.
I should note, that where the wedding and reception are, is about an hour away from the hospital. So if I’m over my due date, I don’t want to be an hour away from the hospital and go into labor. I’ve told DH that I’m not going to the wedding. As far as the reception on the 22nd, I don’t want to take my brand new baby on an hour long car ride, then be around 100+ people since she will be sooooo young.
A few months ago MIL told me that N said she would be really mad if DH wern’t at her wedding and reception. MIL also said that basically, the entire family will disown DH and I if we aren’t there. The comment from N seemed very out of character, so DH called her and she told us that she never said that and she doesn’t expect us to be there.
Then, 2 weeks ago at my baby shower DH’s family cornered me and told me that DH HAS to be at the wedding, but I don’t have to. But then since the reception isn’t until the 22nd, DH and I HAVE to be there for a family picture, but we don’t have to bring the baby cause she’ll be so tiny.
I’ve told DH that I’m not going to either the wedding or reception, mostly because it’s so far from the hospital and I don’t want to bring a newborn around that many people and be that far from home…while I’m still healing from giving birth. He hasn’t said if he’s going or not.
My biggest issue is that his family is demanding that we be there, when #1, N, the bride, doesn’t care and #2, DH and I are adults who are capable of making our own decisions. Am I in the wrong for not going, or should I suck it up and go?
I’ll add a poll because who doesn’t love a poll?!